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| Okey, this is kinda embarassing.... 
FH and I have been toegether for 4 1/2 years, and we still haven't had sex. we were waiting for our wedding. I know the first time is going to hurt, and I don't exactly picture our wedding night full of pain, so we decided we'd try to get used to it first. Well, the other night we dicided that we would try, but it hurt SOOOOOOO bad that I couldn't!  (Like I mean, he couldn't even get it in!) I knew it would hurt, but I never imagined that it would hurt THIS much! We couldn't do anything! I want to be able to have a nice passionate night with him on our wedding night, but I don't see this happening! I have a very low pain tolerance, but like I said, I never imagined it would hurt like that! I felt like crap after and I was shaking and I just wanted to cry! I don't know what to do! Has anyone else had this problem? If so, what did you do? How'd you get past it? If you don't feel comfortable posting on here, just PM me or email me at flutterby1188@hotmail.com Any advice would be MUCH appreciated.
Thanx ladies! I know I can count on you!
http://christopherandheidi.weddingannouncer.com/ The NEW Mrs. Pascoe
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Hi there,
Well I can see how that other night sounded frustrating. But maybe there are a few things you could do...
If you felt a lot of pressure for it to be a great night, you probably weren't relaxed! You will really need to relax your mind so that your body and muscles are relaxed too.
Next, lots of foreplay!! You want to be totally warmed up and ready to go. Also, that will help you relax and think about what is happening in the moment, and not about how the wedding night has to go well.
Finally, lubrication is key!! If you aren't wet enough on your own, then have some KY handy. It makes a HUGE difference. Also, I don't know if you are using condoms or not, but I found out that I am allergic to spermicide (non-oxyil 9 or whatever it's called) so it really BURNED but it wasn't because he hurt me going in, the spermicide was hurting me! Something to think about.
Good luck and have fun!
MLD *Engaged: Sept. 23, 2005*Married:June 9, 2007* I love my HUSBAND!
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| I agree with all of the things MLD said and would like to add... practice makes perfect! Also, if your nervous about it you could always try a sex toy. A small vibe or dildo would help "break the ice" so to speak to get you used to what having something up there feels like. It's another form of "if i don't know what i like how's he ever gonna know". Try and relax. The first time isn't great for a lot of women. It takes time, patience, understanding and a few good tries! Best of luck!
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| Well...the good news is that it likely won't hurt like that again! I was wondering...was he a virgin too? That could also explain why it hurt..my first time was also my BFs (at the time) first time. It was kind of a nightmare cuz niether of us had a clue how to do it. Sex can be painfull if your body isn't ready. I would suggest for the first few goes...because lets face it, you are going to be nervous and might have a difficult time relaxing and getting turned on...use lube. As you get to know your body....you will learn when you need extra help in the lube department and when you're ok on your own. Invest in some good lube. Skip the KY jelly...its too thick and not slippery enough. We have the Kama Sutra Love Liquid and it its great. If you don't have a store where you can buy such things...or are embarrassed you can probably get it online. If you haven't already..try touching yourself. Lastly...take your time. Don't just try to get penetration over with quickly. Tease each other. When you think you are all hot and bothered and ready...WAIT, have some more foreplay. Try to enjoy exactly what you are doing, try not to anticipate what will happen next. (although, when you're more used to it, anticipation is great fun!) Hang in there, it will get better!!!
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Remember that you love eachother, and that you have wanted to wait until the wedding, personally I would be waiting until the wedding night, after all you have waited 4 1/2 years as it is right? After that I would say listen to the above stuff, lubrication is key, Y isn't all that great, I mean sure it works, but as far as a really good time, it's not the best. This would be embaressing for the first time, but go to an adult shop and buy a lube there, personally we enjoy ID but that's just us.
Get comfortable being naked around eachother, this one sounds weird too but sit in a room, being completely not sexual, and talk to eachother naked, it will make you so comfortable with eachother. Then work your way up, try kissing, then touching, then being intimate. I think that would be your best bet.
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Relax and enjoy! Don't think about it too much. You probably were tense and that's why, it does hurt the first time but if you relax and have fun...you'll soon realize there's no pain anymore
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