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| Dear Mom, I love that you are giving me all this 'advice' however, when I say that I don't really picture that at my wedding, or that isn't exactly what I was going for, please stop freaking throwing a hissy fit. I am so over it now. This is my wedding, you had TWO for crying out loud, after the first one, you should have made the second one everything you wanted! Its my turn now. I am so sick and tired of hearing your back - lash of sh!t when I say I don't like something. We don't have to agree but can we just freakin agree to dis-agree??!!! You make me so frustrated! You take everything as an insult, well here is an insult...... I don't want anymore un-solicited advice! your advice is really starting to SUCK! Get over yourself and realize that I need help with executing MY ideas for FH and I's wedding, not your wedding!!!!!!!!!! Thank you, good day! (Oh I could go on forever !!!!!!!)
Live, Laugh, Love, But always Dream.....Married: June 27th, 2008 Baby #2 Due: April 2009
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Zim (6/4/2008)
Dear Mother-in-law,
I can't believe you kept us locked in your bedroom for two hours the day after the wedding so that you could complain about how disappointed you are that we ruined "your" wedding. Yes, I am having another wedding back home, but NO that doesn't mean I had to do everything your way in Canada!! And where do you get off saying that MY FRIENDS were a disappointment to YOU because they weren't dressed formally enough?!!!! That's the pettiest thing I've heard from you yet. Don't you realise you're sabotaging this relationship?? I give you one more chance. Screw me over like this again, and we're done. Make MY HUSBAND cry one more time, and WE ARE DONE.
Zim.Aw, now that sucks. That's completely uncalled for - sorry to hear you had to deal with that right after your wedding!
Married my love on October 20, 2007;
our sweet little Owen Thomas arrived October 23, 2008!
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| Dear BM, please stop telling me to "don't do this!" and "don't do that!" and "why are you doing that?" and "why don't you do this?" because it's REALLY ANNOYING. stop acting like my mother. if i want to be nagged, i would call her! please stop giving me "advice" all the time. i don't need it unless i ask for it! you come off as a know-it-all and it makes me not want to call or chat with you. i also am tired of the self-deprecating comments. i already chose a different color scheme so that you can stop nagging me. i know the the other two bridesmaids are thinner and can relate, but do you have to make ME feel just as bad as you? stop projecting your insecurities onto me!!! I'm was offended when you asked me why i chose my best friend to be my MOH because she's a model and will outshine me. Why would say that to me? I chose her because she's my best friend and has been since we were 13. You have your own issues so deal with them yourself! wait till you have your own wedding and you can do whatever you like! stop nagging me and telling me what i should or shouldn't do! it's my wedding, i'll do whatever the FACK i want!
 engaged on Sept. 20, 2007 in Dublin, Ireland  getting married on Sept. 27, 2008 in Vancouver
http://magcalas-toth.weddingannouncer.com/welcome.html
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Zim (6/4/2008)
Dear Mother-in-law,
I can't believe you kept us locked in your bedroom for two hours the day after the wedding so that you could complain about how disappointed you are that we ruined "your" wedding. Yes, I am having another wedding back home, but NO that doesn't mean I had to do everything your way in Canada!! And where do you get off saying that MY FRIENDS were a disappointment to YOU because they weren't dressed formally enough?!!!! That's the pettiest thing I've heard from you yet. Don't you realise you're sabotaging this relationship?? I give you one more chance. Screw me over like this again, and we're done. Make MY HUSBAND cry one more time, and WE ARE DONE.
Zim.Wow!! I am sorry that you have to deal with a MIL like this!!!!!! I hope you had a wonderful day in spite of her!!
Sarah and Shawn 08.01.09
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| My dearest, my darling, the love of my life, We are talking about the wedding this weekend, whether you like it or not. Love, Me xo
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saraht76 (6/6/2008)
I hope you had a wonderful day in spite of her!!
We had a wonderful day, but now every memory I have of the day is tainted by her comments, or something the family has said... I am so unhappy, and I don't know how to get past it!!
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Dearest Husband,
I am glad we had a chance to talk in the car today. So much of what you said makes sense. However, it’s hard to try to find a role in my new family when so much has been left unsaid. I know it’s terrible to say, but the wonderful memories I have of our wedding are tainted by the things your family complained about after the wedding. Everything I loved about our day, they hated. And how can they justify disliking my family simply because they dislike me?? I am deeply resentful, and I don’t know how to move on from here. I truly don’t understand why I can’t expect an apology, or why that day after the wedding will never be spoken of again.
I have given up hope. Without communication, I don’t see how we can become a family. Without some show of respect for my culture and the way I hope our family will be, I don’t see why I should try. I think the wedding is very indicative of how our life could become. Will we be told how Christmas will happen, what to do, and what to give as presents on the day? This is the only sort of life I can see at the moment, and I don’t want it. I can’t work towards the future if I can’t negotiate what it will look like. Dearest husband, you said I don’t need to become a Japanese wife, but your expectations of how I should deal with this first hiccough prove otherwise.
How do I express all this to your mother? It needs to be said. I cannot forget before I forgive.
Love Zim.
PS. Right now I just want to tell your mother that she is judgemental and mean to the core. Seriously. Those two words run on repeat, over and over in my head whenever I think of her. Which is very often these days!!!
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