BeeBear (6/13/2008)

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nikki04 (6/13/2008)

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BeeBear, where in BC do you live?? I live in Salmon Arm, and they wouldn't tell us here so I had to go to Vernon where they are allowed to tell. Down at the coast a friend of mine also just found out.. but in Kamloops and Penticton they won't tell you.. lol it really depends on where you live!

When we found out, we made a big special day out of it. As pp have said, it is a big surprise no matter when you find out.. DH and I were shocked actually! haha DH and I took our moms to the ultrasound with us and the tech even let them come in to see the baby after DH and I had some time alone which was great. Then afterwards, we all went out shopping together for the day for baby girl things!! lol

I'm actually 40 minutes North of Kamloops.  My Doctor is in Kamloops as well.

It really seems to depend on the city - we went for our ultrasound in Abbotsford, and they wouldn't tell us there. I'm pretty sure they will in Langley though, which really isn't that far away. We went back and forth on whether we wanted to find out, and finally decided that we do, so we're going to go for a 3D ultrasound. Since it's private (and you pay for it), they can tell you the gender.

You could always call your doctor's office and find out where you'd be sent for an ultrasound, and ask the clinic directly if they'll tell you. If you're not able to find out without travelling farther, that might settle things...

Married my love on October 20, 2007...

expecting our baby boy in mid-October, 2008! 

also as someone said it is still a great bit of info wether at 20 weeks or 40.  

This statement is not to start an argument or change anyones mind its just a random thought I have with everyone giving me their opinions with the fact that I want to know (everyone around me seems to think finding out ruins something and I really shouldn't find out)  I really don't understand the whole  "surprise" aspect of it all.   I mean whats the big surprise?  its either a boy or girl right? thats not a surprise to me thats a 50/50 chance.  do you ever flip a coin and actually get "surprised" by what the outcome is?  no, you already know its going to be one or the other - to me thats not really a huge surprise per se but thats just me getting overly technical which I tend do sometimes

balloongrl (6/13/2008)

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we were opposite -he didn't want to know but I did - but two weeks ago I helped change his mind.   We're both planners and like to be prepared as best we can be especially with our first.  If we have another - we'll make the decision at that time again

also as someone said it is still a great bit of info wether at 20 weeks or 40.  

This statement is not to start an argument or change anyones mind its just a random thought I have with everyone giving me their opinions with the fact that I want to know (everyone around me seems to think finding out ruins something and I really shouldn't find out)  I really don't understand the whole  "surprise" aspect of it all.   I mean whats the big surprise?  its either a boy or girl right? thats not a surprise to me thats a 50/50 chance.  do you ever flip a coin and actually get "surprised" by what the outcome is?  no, you already know its going to be one or the other - to me thats not really a huge surprise per se but thats just me getting overly technical which I tend do sometimes

As a non-mom, I understand the "surprise" thing - when my BIL & FSIL found out they were having a girl, they told everyone and told everyone what her name would be.  So when the call came, it was....not as exciting as when I got the call that a dear friend of mine had her baby and we didn't know if it was a boy or a girl or the name.  While I can totally understand wanting to know, as an outsider, it's a very different thing to find out months in advance and get the "Ava has arrived" call vs the "We had a boy - his name is Aidan" call (just picking common names, this isn't directed at anyone!).

 Married at the Barcelo Marina Palace in Varadero, Cuba on August 14, 2007 - best day ever!

Just call me "Dream Weaver"

chickypoo (6/13/2008)

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balloongrl (6/13/2008)

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we were opposite -he didn't want to know but I did - but two weeks ago I helped change his mind.   We're both planners and like to be prepared as best we can be especially with our first.  If we have another - we'll make the decision at that time again

also as someone said it is still a great bit of info wether at 20 weeks or 40.  

This statement is not to start an argument or change anyones mind its just a random thought I have with everyone giving me their opinions with the fact that I want to know (everyone around me seems to think finding out ruins something and I really shouldn't find out)  I really don't understand the whole  "surprise" aspect of it all.   I mean whats the big surprise?  its either a boy or girl right? thats not a surprise to me thats a 50/50 chance.  do you ever flip a coin and actually get "surprised" by what the outcome is?  no, you already know its going to be one or the other - to me thats not really a huge surprise per se but thats just me getting overly technical which I tend do sometimes

As a non-mom, I understand the "surprise" thing - when my BIL & FSIL found out they were having a girl, they told everyone and told everyone what her name would be.  So when the call came, it was....not as exciting as when I got the call that a dear friend of mine had her baby and we didn't know if it was a boy or a girl or the name.  While I can totally understand wanting to know, as an outsider, it's a very different thing to find out months in advance and get the "Ava has arrived" call vs the "We had a boy - his name is Aidan" call (just picking common names, this isn't directed at anyone!).

From the outside, I have to agree. I knew that friends of mine were going to have a boy and that they were planning to name him either Adam or Cole. As exciting as it was to hear that he was born, it wasn't quite the same thing as hearing from another friend who didn't know what she was having. I knew her top choices for a boy and a girl, but the "What did they have?" question was still the first thing everyone asked, not "What's his/her name?" We're going to try really hard not to tell anyone other than our parents when we find out, although I think it might slip to a few close friends.

Married my love on October 20, 2007...

expecting our baby boy in mid-October, 2008! 

You can call me 'Mommy Dearest'!!

Started my Happily ever After June 10 2006
Mommy to Molli & Tessa

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He has also mentioned that next time he does want to know of the gender early in the pregnancy...I on the other hand, have told him that I would not want to know.

I wonder who will win this "battle" when it arises.....

slakie 

Married my sweetheart June 10th 2006

Mommy to a Cutie born April 25th 2007