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I just wrote about it in the "where are all the married women thread"
Pinksox  Married June 25th 2005. Member since August 22, 2003.
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| I think what keeps the spark alive with us is that we really look after each other. We do little things... like he brings me coffee in bed every morning. I always make sure he has nice lunches to take to work. It's just tiny little things but we always look after each other. We also make sure to date. We go out for dinner. We talk about things other than our daily household stuff. We have a baby now so that makes it even harder... but we talk politics, interests, hobbies, etc. We try to make things between us fun and interactive. It's really easy to fall in to the trap of where all you do is just manage a household. Know what I mean? And we're silly. We act goofy. We joke around. We try to always have fun. I can't wait until our daughter is older and we embarass the hell out of her... lol.
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| I find our relationship has changed after marriage and for the better. We have a sense of who we are now and a security that we are always there for one another. I was excited to TTC but after a few months DH and I are back to our lazy ways! I do like Ember's suggestions so maybe I can change his mind again
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| i just wanna know why does the word "marriage" change things??? i mean if you were together for 8 years, i think you should know your partner much better then someone who has only been with their partner for only 3 years!!! I just do not understand how marriage can change the relationship... i am expecting it to change because we have only been dating for only almost 4 years. But we have been living together for almost 2 years now!!! In the government eyes we are common-law... The only major change will be when FH gets on the Days Shift at work... that means I will be seeing him a lot more then I do now.
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desbride07 (4/8/2006)
i just wanna know why does the word "marriage" change things??? Two lives are becoming one ... I know ...very cliche ... but it's true. Bank accounts are now one, responsibilities are now one, everything is together. And there are still many people who do not live with their FH's before getting married. This can be a BIG change for anyone. Remember living with your FH for the first time? Remember learning those things the drove you bonkers? Imagine already being married. Does marriage change things? Absolutely. So I'll ask you this ... if the word marriage changes nothing, why are you getting married? To the OP, I can completely understand wanting to keep the spark, I understand. After living with FH for 2 years, I'm in a comfortable routine and the sex life is definately less active than it when we first started dating.
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desbride07 (4/8/2006)
i just wanna know why does the word "marriage" change things??? i mean if you were together for 8 years, i think you should know your partner much better then someone who has only been with their partner for only 3 years!!! I just do not understand how marriage can change the relationship... i am expecting it to change because we have only been dating for only almost 4 years. But we have been living together for almost 2 years now!!! In the government eyes we are common-law... The only major change will be when FH gets on the Days Shift at work... that means I will be seeing him a lot more then I do now. I agree with igottajlo. It really is about the merging or blending of two people and everything that involves - $, families, etc. You really do become a new family unit that has to function together 100% of the time to make it work. It's not at all about the length of time you've been with someone and I truly beg to differ about how long you've been with someone equates to how well you know them.
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igottajlo (4/10/2006)
desbride07 (4/8/2006)
i just wanna know why does the word "marriage" change things???
Two lives are becoming one ... I know ...very cliche ... but it's true. Bank accounts are now one, responsibilities are now one, everything is together. And there are still many people who do not live with their FH's before getting married. This can be a BIG change for anyone. Remember living with your FH for the first time? Remember learning those things the drove you bonkers? Imagine already being married. Does marriage change things? Absolutely. So I'll ask you this ... if the word marriage changes nothing, why are you getting married?
To the OP, I can completely understand wanting to keep the spark, I understand. After living with FH for 2 years, I'm in a comfortable routine and the sex life is definately less active than it when we first started dating.
Our bank accounts will remain the same as they have for the last several years (each having their own and a joint one for household stuff), responsibilities were worked out long ago.. I agree that moving in with someone is a BIG change - no question. But for those of us who have been living together for many years it will not be much of a change at all.
As to why I'm getting married: We are proud of the relationship we have built together and we are celebrating that with our friends and family. I'm not saying marriage means nothing, I'm saying it won't change anything.
I agree with desbride07 that length of time together says more about a relationship than stamping the word "marriage" on it. You can fully know someone after only a short while but learning to navigate and accomodate each person changing and growing, learning how to keep the spark... This can only be learned with time.
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