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| This is a good thread. The priest who used to be at our parish told me once that when he's running marriage prep courses, he asks the people "Why do you want to get married? And the answer can't be because you love them!" I think it's important to think about the other reasons, too, as unromantic as they may be 
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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I'm marrying him because after being through one toxic marriage, I found out through him what I really deserve. I'm marrying him because he always treats me and my family with respect, he is caring and compassionate, he is physically attractive IMHO, he doesn't think that ballroom and salsa dancing are only for gay men, he watches Dancing with the Stars with me  , he knows how to dance well, he wants to travel the world with me, he loves spicy food, he likes to go running with me, he sees no problem in traveling to another city to run a half-marathon, he helps me cook and clean, he supports me while I complete my accounting designation, he is positive and upbeat most of the time, he sees the glass as half full, he knows how to read me, he likes to read books, he's interesting, he challenges me to try different things, he loves me the way that I am, he says that I'm the most beautiful woman in the world....etc.
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zim and xoxo - i'm sorry you guys are having doubts  i KNOW you're not the only ones on the board having them if that makes you feel better.when i was out with some cb-ers the other day, i didn't word this very well...and i probably won't again but.... i really wish the cbers that end up having problems or divorcing would come back on here! i mean, we're all here for each other for the stress of the wedding, or the babies, or the houses, etc....but what about the MARRIAGES? the divorce rate is something like 50% - so i find it hard to believe that every marriage that happens on this site stays together and happy as nice as that would be for everyone! i think it would give people great support to come here where people already "know" you...and be able to talk about what they're going through...and since there's so many women on here that have been married before - i think it would be more helpful then going to just a regular divorce chat room because the person having the problems will see that they can have a happy ending too! you shouldn't get flamed for saying maybe you made a mistake - you should be lauded for being adult enough to realize there's a problem. if you guys want to talk it out - we'll be here for you 
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I second everything Maggie said!
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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| as for me, yes i wanted the dress... BUT i will admit i also asked myself why am i getting married? both hubby and i come from divorced parents. he came out of it with the attitude "why do i need a piece of paper? it doesn't keep people from getting divorced, so if i want to be with you i will...i don't need anyone elses permission." where as i came out of it dreaming what it would be like to have a husband and be a wife and i never thought i would get married actually due to my circumstances, so when my circumstances changed and i COULD get married - my god i wanted it so bad! dh was the last piece of the puzzle! but i married HIM because he is just fantastic. i come with a lote of baggage and "quirks" and he loves me no matter what - and there's been some trials - let me tell you! he doesn't bring me flowers, and he doesn't usually say the "right thing" but when it matters that man has my back, and he is so kind and funny...and that sweet ass of his! meow! it's been 7 1/2 years and i still get excited for him to come home from work, and i still smile when i think of something he did....i'm hooked - i couldn't imagine my life without him!
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huntertobe (6/27/2008)
If you guys want to talk it out - we'll be here for you
Thank you!
Thankfully, after our first major fight (well, the first time I've ever shouted...) things are back to normal in my relationship. I've realised that sometimes you might just need to exercise your lungs to get down to the real issue!!
I must admit, the last four weeks have been quite awful, because I couldn't figure out what was wrong with "us". I tried to start a thread in the Newlyweds section about it, but I deleted my message just because the Newlyweds section is such a happy place that I didn't want to rain on anyone else's parade!
I think it might help to have a place where we can air out marital difficulties. I know that I, for one, would like to hear from people who have had glitches along the way.
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