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| Is it fair for someone to tell their spouse that they will not have kids until certain things happen first? For example, no kids until done school and working full-time, or no kids until lose weight, no kids until more independent...etc...). In other words, what would you do if your spouse put conditions on having children? I saw this on T.V. and thought it would be an interesting topic. For me I guess it would depend on what my spouse was asking (i.e. is it something that is important for my or the babies health etc...). But if it was something that I thought was not that important I would be pretty upset!!!
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We already have a timeline... And it has been decided almost solely by my husband!! Unfortunately, my arguments are emotional and don't stand up to the fact that we truly don't have the money, time, or family resources right now 
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| I guess it would depend on the condition. If DH wanted to wait until I was done school or he was done school (if we were in school) that's reasonable. If it was health related, that's reasonable. Originally DH wanted to start TTC immediately after the wedding. However, I wanted to save some money first so we wouldn't have to put alot of the baby stuff on credit.
 IGGY
Rachael arrived July 2nd!!!
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| DH and I didn't have any conditions on having lo's. I did make a condition for him getting a motorcycle. The conditions were: A wedding, Kids and a bigger house. He emailed me a few days after my BFP and said "I just realized that I am a little closer to getting my bike!". lol. So far he already has done 2 out of 3  . I was just bugging him of course. If he wanted to get a bike that bad, I would breakdown and let him. It was just kinda fun to razz him a little.
Married my best friend September 15, 2007 TTC#1 since October 2007 Got serious about TTC ~ January 2008 BFP May 26, 2008 ~ Here's hoping to a H&H 9 months! EDD ~ January 31, 2009
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The only condition DH and I had was to get through high school. LOL. That said we're now 26 and 28 so we managed to pull through on that one.  In other scenarios, it would depend on the conditions. The way I see it, you always find a way to care for your children when they come around.
Married September 10, 2005 Expecting our lil' Monkey - February 5, 2009 Before you were conceived, you were wanted. Before you are born, you are loved.
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DH and I had a couple conditions. well not really conditions. just things that needed to happen first.. but they were far from deal breakers.. first. i had to get my tubes untied  which required us to save a bit for that.. then the wedding.. dh didnt want to get pregnant before the wedding.. i got my tubes untied May 06. and we got married August 06. from may to our wedding. there was no sex.. lol.. we now have our little bundle of joy.. we dont have anything that needs to happen before we have another one tho.. if it happens it happens.
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| I think it's fair to put conditions for having a lo as long as they're reasonable. We know how much time, energy, comittment and money it takes to raise a little one. We wanted to make sure that we were stable in our lives before bringing a LO into the world. We made sure we both have good stable jobs, got married, bought a house and had two test furbabies first. LOL We want to be able to enjoy this time and not have to stress about housing, jobs, our relationship or worry too much about money. Oh and DH's motorcycle will be waiting until next year due to us having to buy a bigger vehicle for baby.
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