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| I personally dont' see a problem with setting GOALS before TTC. If you love someone, and you have the same goals, then it won't be a problem.
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beaniebaby (7/2/2008)
I personally dont' see a problem with setting GOALS before TTC. If you love someone, and you have the same goals, then it won't be a problem. I totally agree with this. My DH and I have certain things that we want to accomplish before TTC, but I don't consider them 'conditions', more like making sure that we both feel ready to welcome a baby into our lives. While an oops would be just fine with both of us, and I recognize that there is no 'perfect' time, I don't see the harm in trying to make sure all of your ducks are in a row before starting.
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Both DH and I agreed a few years ago that before we started a family, we wanted to be married and move out of our townhouse into a house as we wanted more space. Then once we bought our house we wanted to have the renos finished.
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| I dont know if there is ever a "right" time to have kids it never seems that there is enough money or enough time ... there can always be excuses. So if you feel you are ready I say go ahead ... but I think if one person is really resisting it you should wait. You want it to be a happy time for both of you and if one is unhappy that really makes it hard to enjoy ( trust me I know) We didnt have our LO and the "right" time but we worked around it and things have a way of fixing themselves and balancing out.
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We have made a few 'goals' before we TTC (in a year) however, I always have to remind myself we have 9 months before Babe too 
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My FH says no kids until he get a new Harley.
I said ya right, lol, good luck with that.
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CelticGhal (7/2/2008)
My FH says no kids until he get a new Harley.
I said ya right, lol, good luck with that.
Ask him how he plans on hooking up a child seat on that. LOL. I think a side car is kind of cool, but then he has the problem of where to fit the wife....hmmm....sucks to be him.
A wife's dream come true...when Harley makes a minivan. 
To the OP, I see nothing wrong with a couple deciding together what conditions need to be met so that they can best provide for their family. I also think this discussion should occur long before the wedding because different views on children (when to have them and how to raise them) would be a deal breaker for me.
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