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| So we had a post before asking everyone's opinons on whether babies should be allowed in movies....which I'm sure we all remember. Well, now I have a new question. Should a parent with a mentally handicapped child, regardless of age be allowed to in movies? The reason for asking this is because on the weekend we went to the mall to see Wanted (great movie by the way), and while walking around we saw a man pushing his son, I am guessing a teenager around, in a wheelchair who was shouting and screaming and making noises. Once we got the theatre, and got our seats, the father came in the with the son and took a seat. The son was SO loud, and during the previews kept screaming out and making noises. (on top of the fact a mother was there with a baby who kept screaming during loud parts, but she finally left after 20 minutes) Someone in front of me got up and went to get a employee of the cinema, who must have told her he can't do anything because she came back saying 'this is bull***, i pay to come in here to see a movie and they won't ask someone who is disturbing the movie to leave'. Do you think the father should have taken it upon himself to leave? Do you think he should have to leave if asked?
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and for the record, the son yelled throughout the WHOLE movie, and it wasn't a huge theatre.
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| I'm speechless. I personally don't think that the father should have to leave. His son has a mental disability, the theatre would be discriminating against him if he asked him to leave. If they were at a restaurant and the son was yelling out and making noises should he be asked to leave? No, so why leave the movies. It's just wrong. I think that people need to have a bit more of an open mind and just deal with it.
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July7Bride (7/1/2008)
I'm speechless. I personally don't think that the father should have to leave. His son has a mental disability, the theatre would be discriminating against him if he asked him to leave. If they were at a restaurant and the son was yelling out and making noises should he be asked to leave? No, so why leave the movies. It's just wrong. I think that people need to have a bit more of an open mind and just deal with it.Actually, if while in a restaraunt someone was making that much of a disturbance, then yes they would have been asked to leave. This is getting into dangerous territory and I hope I dont offend anyone.
I worked with mentally and physically handicapped adults. My job was to assist them in daily living, wether it was helping prepare meals, or taking them to a movie, or to take them to volunteer somewhere. There were plenty of times where we needed to remove someone from a situation because it was too overwhelming for them. Perhaps the son wasnt enjoying the movie, or felt scared, but his father wanted to see the movie so he made his son go...who knows, none of us know the circumstances. Maybe the son was making such noise because he was loving it.
Forget for a second that it was a handicapped person doing this...how would you feel about anyone else yelling throughout the whole movie? You would be upset as well, and wish they would leave. I am not saying that handicapped people shouldn't be allowed in public, because, hey, its their public too. They are people in every way that we are, and should be able to enjoy whatever it is they want to do. But in this case it is not discrimination...if the father had paid for every single person in that theatre to see the movie, then OK deal with it. But it costs alot now to see movies..I know that, personally, I took my 5 year old to a kids movie recently, and there was one child that ruined the whole thing for both of us. We had to change seats 2 times, once was because my daughter asked me to. This boy kept following us around, jumping on seats, throwing things and would not stop talking to my daughter, while she wanted to watch the movie. His grandmother did nothing but say 'shhh' a few times. I now have to spend the money to see that movie again, even if i only rent it, as I am sure teh OP will likely have to do herself
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| It's a fine line. Where's the line between discrimination, and allowing everyone else to enjoy themselves? My kids don't behave very well. My son is 11 and has ADHD and ODD. He can't control himself very well; some days (and some months even!) are better than others. As a result, I don't take him out much. I would think that the father of the disabled boy who can't control himself (through no fault of his own) should have the courtesy to keep him home and rent the movie, where they can watch without disturbing others. Does it suck? You bet. Is it common courtesy? I think so. Now, this does not mean that I don't think disabled people should be allowed to enjoy activities outside their homes. If they have the ability to stay quiet through a movie (which is expected of everyone, really), then I have no problem with it whatsoever. Same with babies: if the babies are sleeping and/or eating and they're quiet, I have no problem with that. I just can't imagine ruining other people's enjoyment and not feeling guilty about it.
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I too work with people with disabilities and have to agree, they should be treated just like everyone else. It is extremely rude for anyone to be yelling in places that require you to be able to sit and be quiet. I take people at work to the movies and out to restaurants all the time. If they are unable to sit or act appropriately then we leave immediately. The father in that situation is not helping his son out any by bringing him somewhere where either 1) he won't or 2) isn't able to act socially appropriate. People in the community alot of times aren't accepting of people with disabilities already so it doesn't make it better for the son to be put in a situation where he may be on the recieving end of unwelcoming looks and comments. Just remember most times it it the caregivers fault for putting people in situations that they aren't able to handle, so please do not take it out on the person with the disability
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