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My Stepson has a developmental disability and can be highly inappropriate sometimes. We talk to him about his behaviour and about appropriateness, and remove him from the situation if he's unable to cope to social norms in a situation where it would ruin the experience for others.
But some parents are highly protective of their disabled kids and think everyone should just make allowances for them in situations where it's not necessarily warranted (sometimes it is, but some people blur the lines between when it is and is not because they're just so wrapped up in dealing with the disability), and I've found this through participating at the activities I take my Stepson to all the time where he socializes with other kids and adults with issues like his.
Some parents are embarrassed by their kids behaviour and other parents feel like their child has been so hard done by (and really, they are), that everyone else should make allowances for them. In some cases this makes sense and is appropriate. In my opinion its not the right thing to do to have that opinion (that the world should just put up with it because he's gotten the short end of the stick and has dealt with enough) in a movie theatre. But I do see how the dad likely felt that way (I'm assuming here) not that it makes it right.
Thankfully my SS does well in movie theatres. He's not someone who just shouts out and makes random noises most of the time - he is not that severely disabled and we thank gawd for that every day - it could be a lot worse to be honest. I've met some parents of severely disabled kids and I commend them; I just don't know how they get thru the day every day, I really don't. But I guess you just do. Like we do with my stepson, even though the problems are far less severe than what some other families have to deal with.
But if he didn't do well in movie theatres, I would think we just wouldn't take him. He doesn't do well in restaurants, but we still take him sometimes. He doesn't disrupt others, just the people at his table sometimes (us, family, friends, etc.) as he gets very moody like a small child. In those cases we have been known to leave the restaurant when he acts up too much. I think the father in the movie theatre probably should have done the same.
If I were in the OPs shoes, I would have just gone to the front and asked for my money back and come back another day. No anger, because really the theatre would be putting themselves at risk of being sued unfortunately if they kicked the dad and his son out (you never know what people will pull these days in support of their children no matter what they do), but I definitely would've been disappointed and annoyed.
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2bwed0609 (7/6/2008)
My Stepson has a developmental disability and can be highly inappropriate sometimes. We talk to him about his behaviour and about appropriateness, and remove him from the situation if he's unable to cope to social norms in a situation where it would ruin the experience for others.
.It is good to hear your POV, seeing as you actually CAN see both sides of it
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| In the Edmonton Journal today, there's an article about how the manager at a local restaurant asked the parents of a 5 year old autistic girl to leave. I guess she became disruptive after the meal she wanted was unavailable. The parents were trying to calm her down when they were asked to leave. It's doesn;t say how long she was being disruptive for. When the parents told the manager that she was autistic and would calm down shortly, the manager said if they knew she would be like that, they shouldn't take her out in public at all. As for being asked to leave, I think it would depend on how long she was disruptive for (I wish it said), but I think the manager was out of line with his comment about never taking her out in public.
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Beltsie (7/6/2008)
In the Edmonton Journal today, there's an article about how the manager at a local restaurant asked the parents of a 5 year old autistic girl to leave. I guess she became disruptive after the meal she wanted was unavailable. The parents were trying to calm her down when they were asked to leave. It's doesn;t say how long she was being disruptive for. When the parents told the manager that she was autistic and would calm down shortly, the manager said if they knew she would be like that, they shouldn't take her out in public at all. As for being asked to leave, I think it would depend on how long she was disruptive for (I wish it said), but I think the manager was out of line with his comment about never taking her out in public. I agree if she was 'disruptive for maybe 5 minutes and was winding down, then no biggie. If she was screeching uncontrollably for 20 minutes or something, then thats a little excessive. The manager's comment was insensitive and completely out of line.
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