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So, he's not coming. I cry about it almost every day. My wedding is in less than 3 months. I'm scared that this is going to set the mood for the entire day. People tell me not to be sad, but how can I not? He's my dad, he should be here. He's had more than a year's notice. He could have arranged it, and he didn't. How am I supposed to feel?
Guess I just have to vent to someone who will hopefully take my side instead of his. 
Marrying the Love of my Life
My High School Sweetheart
September 27th, 2008
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| Why is he not coming? I am so sorry for you. I lost my dad about 15 years ago to a heart attack and my mother doesn't like my fiancee so she won't be coming to my wedding either. All I can say is have a wonderful day, maybe he will change his mind.
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He's not coming because he "can't afford it," but, like I said earlier, he's had more than a year's notice of the exact date. And, a bus ticket (round trip!!!) only costs $218!!! And he has already been told that he can stay with my grandparents while he's here... I just don't get it. Maybe he doesn't want to come?
If he doesn't come, what do I do? Just keep talking to him and let him think that he didn't do anything wrong? Or do I stop talking to him for at least a few months and let him feel bad? The only problem with not talking to him is that my youngest brother lives with him (Thomas is 2), and if I don't talk to my dad, I don't get to talk to Thomas, and that's not fair to him!
Ah... What am I supposed to do/feel? I feel so sad.
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September 27th, 2008
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| I'm very sorry your going through this. Have you talked to him, like a good heart to heart? Is there another reason other than he can't afford it? Maybe he feels bad about not having much money or being able to help with the wedding. Can you help him at all, like pay for a bus ticket and his tux or suit. Maybe he will feel better then. I really hope you guys work through this. HUGS!
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| Okay, I can relate to this thread. My father isn't coming to my wedding either. Basically, we told him we were going away to get married and then two weeks after telling him this then his lady friend planned a month long vacation for them. Therefore, they cannot afford to go on two big vacations this year, so he's not coming to the wedding. How convenient of his lady friend to plan a big vacation to avoid my wedding!! (I feel like saying mean things about her.) Basically, I've come to terms with it now. He won't be there and it's his loss. However, now my mom can't come b/c of medical reasons, so it's a bit sad, but at least she has a reason. This day isn't for our families or friends, so we are making sure we have our day and there will be many other special days that family can share with us. There are babies, anniversaries, birthdays, and other events you can share with your dad. Weddings are special, but I think if you make it a lifetime and can share a 50th anniversary with friends and family then that will be even better.
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| I wish I could hand you a check so that your dad could come. I still think that maybe he might change his mind. My fiancee's daughter went away to get married and didn't tell anyone, but they are still close. I hope things work out. My heart bleeds for you, I am so sorry.
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Oh wow...I am so sorry for you having to go through this hopefully he ends up coming. I mean...he's your DAD...how can he justify not being there?? Is there anyone else that is coming to the wedding that may be able to car-pool with him from his area? Maybe you could split the cost of the bus with him? Or tell him not to worry about bringing a gift, that his presence is enough?? Something like that? I really hope this works out for you.
Finally Mrs. Rosell!!  September 6, 2008
Victoria, BC
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