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| I am feeling a little guilty about my up coming stag and doe and shower. We have a lot of out of town guest so we decided to do my shower and stag and doe early and on the same day. July 19th is the day and everything was going well until this week. On Monday I got a call from my mom telling me my Opa(Grandfather) who is 89 is dying. So I spent all day Monday and Canada day at the hosiptal. He is still with us today but, it could be any minute, hour or day, we just don't know. The shower and stag and doe are so close only a couple weeks away and I just feel guilty. It hard to explain I guess. I feel guilty because I am excited and there is still stuff to plan for it and I talk to my mom still about it, but I mean her Dad is dying, I shouldn't be bugging her about it. She says that it is fine to talk about because it gives her something else to think about , but I still feel like I should not discuss it at all. I am just so confused about how I should feel. My mom talked to the rest of the family about whether we should cancel the whole thing or not and my family wants it to go on because it will be good for the family to get together for a happy occassion. I just feel that I am beign selfish by doing it. Everything is scheduled and people have bought tickets and RSVP to the shower, so we can't really change it and we are looking to, but I just don't know how to feel about it now. I don't want everyone to think I have done something wrong by having it, especially if he dies really near it, which seems likely right now. I guess I don't really have a question for you girls to answer. I just need to vent and let out my confusion. I hope that everyone else family's on here are doing great. And if you still have grandparents, that you enjoy the time you have with them. I guess we get so used to having them around that we think they can live forever, but that is not how life goes. I know he lived a long time and some people don't get that chance. I just don't understand why bad things seem to happen at the worst times. Thanks for reading.
Cheryl and Joseph October 18th,2008 85 People Coming to Party
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***HUGS*** Sorry to hear about your Opa.
August 23, 2008 ~ Best.Day.Ever 
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sorry to hear about your opa.
my grandfather (pappa) is 86 and not doing so well. i don't know if he'll make it to my wedding- which isn't for a while.
but i think it's for best to continue with the plans. life goes on.
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Aaawwww, sweetie, I'm so sorry you're Opa is so ill. The fact that you're even feeling guilty about it shows you have a good heart and have nothing to feel guilty about! Your family is right, go on with the plans.
Live. Love. Laugh. 10.27.07
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| Believe your mother when she tells you it's ok to talk about it, because it is something happy that gets their mind off the sadness going on. People really do want to talk about happy things during sad times. My fiance's cousin who was only 19 died a few months ago, and EVERYONE wanted to talk about our engagement, we didn't bring it up, everyone just asked, and congratulated. I felt weird about it at the time because it was a funeral, but finace really "got" that they just really wanted to focus on the happy things that are going on, because life doesn't stop when we loose someone, even if we feel it should, focusing on the happy things to come helps. Sorry for you and yours' loss.
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| Thanks for the reply's girls. I think it's true that at times like these families want to celebrate happy occasions more then anything. Last night I went to my parents and my mom and I made the Thank-yous for the shower. She said after we were done that she was really glad that I decided to come over and do that with her because it was nice to semi-think about something else for a while and laugh again. Thanks Again
Cheryl and Joseph October 18th,2008 85 People Coming to Party
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