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| OK so in a previous post I spoke about a "friend" of mine who I no longer feel is a friend...her and I are in the wedding party for our other friend, and she has been nothing but stress for the bride and a headache for me this whole time...including during my wedding last year... Anyways...so for the groom's gift to the bride, he has made this INCREDIBLE scrapbook for her about their entire relationship...seriously, I've never seen anything more beautiful and heartfelt...and at the end of the scrapbook he wants all of the bride's friends to make a little write-up about her and their relationship... Well the groom sent a facebook message to us all asking for this, TWO WEEKS AGO...and "friend" (aka. A) still hasn't done hers. I called her yesterday...I had been calling her for three days and I know she knew it because she has call display although not voicemail...and I finally got a hold of her...and I went on and on for 20 minutes about how important this is and how she needs to do it and I was giving her ideas etc... Her response, "If it's so important, why didn't he call me"...ummmm a)you're impossible to get a hold of, and b)facebook isn't good enough? he didn't have your phone number!!! She then went on to say she never checks her facebook...me: "do you check your email"...A: "yes"...me: facebook sends you notifications...do you get those?...A: "yes" ?????????????????????????????????????????????????? UGH! So today I get a panicked email from the groom, because he's trying to finish this now because the rehearsal starts Wednesday so he'll have no time after that...saying that SHE STILL HASN'T DONE IT??? I left him a message with her phone number, and I also called her...no answer, surprise surprise... So I sent her the following email...I was very angry when I wrote it so please tell me if I've broken my vow to not stir up drama before the wedding! Thanks ladies! "OK A you need to turn on your answering machine! lol...I can never leave you a message! So the reason I'm writing you is that GROOM just left me a DESPERATE sounding voicemail message saying that you haven't done the write-up yet?!?!?! A, I just talked to you about it for 20 minutes last night!!! GROOM didn't call you because he didn't have your number...he does now, I just left a message for him with it. I guess he figured that since everyone else replied to his facebook message that you would've seen it now too...and he has other things to do than to bother BRIDE's best friends to write something sweet for her. Please do it now...don't put it off any longer!!! Here's GROOM's email address: emailaddress@hotmail.com. GROOM has so much stress right now...he's only waiting on your write-up to finish the scrapbook which he has spent SO MUCH time working on so please please please do it now! You can check your facebook message from him to get an idea what he wants from you. Thank you A! xoxo
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| I think what you wrote was fine, but honestly if it was me in the same situation, my e-mail would have been a lot ruder. lol!! What a ***** is all I have to say...
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What a shame  I hope that you both remember that even if she never follows through, it won't be the end of the world. I'm sure the bride will appreciate it immensely, and it certainly won't be a reflection on either of you that A couldn't be bothered to contribute. All the same, I hope she does. I do think you were still polite and neutral  She may react badly, but that's her own issue, right?
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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Wow...is she ever a cow!!! (don't want to use bad words here) You are beyond nice to her and honestly, I would not have the patience for someone like that. I hope he gives it to her without "A"'s words in it so she can look like a fool for not having participated in this wonderful scrapbook.
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| I think you and the groom have made more than enough effort to get her to complete her write up. At this time, I would just say "You were supposed to have this done two weeks ago, you have shown that you clearly don't want to do it and we will stop bugging you to do it. Groom will just put together the scrap book without your in put." Like you said the Groom is dealing with enough stress right now and it is too late for her... It's unfortunate that she is acting this way but there isn't anything you can do it make her do her part.
~Stef and Rob~
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| yuck, I have been following this story from the beginning... All i have to offer you is TRY not to get involved. I know you are part of the wedding party and you are trying to help out but from the sounds of it you should pick your battles with her. You have given the groom the phone number, that is all you can do. It was your friends choice to include her in the wedding party, from the sounds of it a bad choice in retrospect, but ... In the end when all is said and done your difficult friend is the one that is going to have to live with herself and her decisions.. I know the groom wants the scrap book to be perfect but maybe if she isnt included it wouldnt be the worst thing in the world. ugh trying to make good out of a CRAP situation. :-(
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| I just wouldn't even bother with her contribution to the book at this point....he put out the request, and those that honestly wanted to contribute would have responded by now...why force her to come up with a contribution that most likely isn't even heartfelt? Just let it go. The groom shouldn't worry about it...I'm sure his bride won't miss it in the grand scheme of things.
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