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| We are trying to stay at 100 people and because of this we are really not getting to invite some of our friend. Here is my question, it is rude not to put "and guest" for some people? I am not saying for everyone but for the people that I know will end up bring someone I dislike to my wedding, rather then me being able to invite a friend of mine who I would love to have at my wedding??? thanks
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| My advice is to 'make a rule'. Be prepared to defend it. We allowed a guest for: couples together for more than a year (friends & extended family - i.e. cousins), and for individuals over 18. Anyone from out of town that did not have an SO had an 'and guest', too. Lots just came on their own when they knew friends from the same group were coming. No guests for the younger cousins (my 15 year old cousin tried to tell me the world was ending b/c she couldn't bring a date to my wedding. Sure, sunshine). I've been to weddings where the only 'and guest' went to engaged and married couples (couples dating for 3+ years included - the SO wasn't invited). So, it can be done to limit numbers if need be. Best of luck!
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| I dunno if it's rude, but I didn't put AND GUEST for anyone. If they didn't have a significant other at the time the invites went out, then I wasn't willing to sacrifice a spot that I could use for a friend for some random bf/gf that I've never met. Maybe it is rude...but...I just don't have it in me to pay lots of money to have people I don't know at my wedding. We haven't had any problems with it so far. JMO!
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I didn't put "and guest" for anyone, either.
If I knew that a guest had a serious boyfriend, then I asked that guest for her/his address and sent an invitation separately.
If you did the same thing, you could defend it by saying "Your boyfriend/girlfriend is so recent, I didn't know his/her address"! 
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Our rule for guests was it had to be a girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance, etc. So my single cousin, for example, didn't get an "and guest".
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| DH and I didn't agree on this at all. He wanted everyone to have "and guest". I said no way for guests under 18 and won that one. But he did give out a "and guest" to several of our single friends. For my single friends I didn't and they didn't mind. I'm glad that's over with b/c we spent so much time going back and forth on that one.
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| We did put "and Guest" and now we are over our 100 guests :-( Although, for the extra 10-15 people, all of our guests are happy and that is most important. I dont think I would want to attend a wedding by myself unless I was immediate family and knew a lot of the guests there... is it really fair to ask a casual friend to show up by themselves? I dont know, to each his own, but that is the way we did it and we are happy (although over our preferred number of guests). If your day, do it the way you want!
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