10 months after our weddding.

thanks all for the advice.

I have the perfect family!!!!

I got married in April, my thank you's went out in October. We took lots of time with them and although some people may have been wondering what took them so long [although no one said anything], when they arrived, we had nothing but compliments about how beautiful they were and how personalized the notes were. 

In our culture [european descent], within one year of a wedding is acceptable for thank yous-- provided a professional picture is included.  If it is only a note- I agree with your one month timeframe.  Furthermore,  our guests would complain MORE about NOT receiving a picture than about a late thank you card! 

I received a thank you about 2 weeks ago from a wedding we attended Sept 23, 2007.   No sweat- I felt neither unthanked nor offended!  a great picture and a short personalized thank you and i have the picture up on the fridge!

Now, NOT receiveing a thank you at all-- that's OFFENSIVE.  and we have experienced that as well.

edited for spelling errors...

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One year already!

April 28, 2007

Not sure if I agree with the above highlighted comments.  I truly am not aware of "traditions" when it comes to sending out thank you cards.  If there are any, I would love to know what they. Also being ITALIAN, I have never heard of "in our culture, within one year is acceptable". Within our group of Italian friends, it has always been, the sooner the better and that usually meant within the first couple of months. No later than 3 months after the wedding. I know there was another thread on this that within one year it is acceptable but I have to agree with other PP's. One year later is completely unacceptable to me or even 10 months later. JMO.

Married The Love Of My Life - September 12, 2008!!!
Now Mrs.K.

 

While "culture" may not be the correct word, my point remains that "traditions" have changed for the weddings in general over the years.  they are bigger and grander then ever before.  whereas, brides and grooms rarely stayed at their own receptions very long, now that is not the majority.  and while many couples had thank you cards in the mail before leaving for the honeymoon,  this is rarely the case- certainly not any weddings i've been too.  having said that, obviously, the sooner the better.  I think I mentioned that as well and I figured that goes without saying.  however, no one in my circle or my extended community [but not exclusively as I have many friends outside the same culture, italians included]  would ever be offended by waiting 10 months for a thank you card especially if they were thoughtful and personalized.   Having said that, I don't think I've EVER received a thank you card sooner than 3 months after a wedding- unless they were a generic typed-up card. 

Etiquette actually states that one year is acceptable for giving a gift to the married couple, so why are we not as tolerant when it comes to providing thank yous.  After all, writing thoughful thank yous to 200 guests does take time!

as for the OP, send out your thank you's -everyone will be happy to receive them and I'm sure you will get lots of thank you's in return!

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One year already!

April 28, 2007

As for me....my photographer is making us a thank-you card which features 4 pro-pics from the wedding on the front of the card.  I am going to work my butt off to have these written and mailed by mid-august.  Therefore, all guests should have a thank you within 2 months of the wedding, and I think that it is a completely reasonable time-frame. 

I believe that a thank you should be given within 3 months of a wedding, however I do agree that recieving one is always welcome, even if it takes longer than expected.  Not sending a thank-you is just rude and tacky.

Mrs. Mike V.H.

 

June 28, 2008