To be honest, I'm really happy we did.  Although we had to do everything gender neutral, the excitement and anticipation of finding out and waiting was awesome.  Lying there and wondering, "Are you an Ethan or a Rachael?" was amazing.  (I had a c-section ... which is why I was lying LOL).  When our LO finally came out, it was great to hear the doctor say, "It's a little girl!" 

However, some people say it's a surprise no matter when you find out ... which I agree with.  Whether you find out at 20 weeks or when you deliver it's always a surprise.  It's just a different kind of surprise, is all. 

Also, for DH and I (sorry this is a novel LOL) ... we had friends find out they were having a boy ... well come delivery day, out pop a baby GIRL!  They were thrilled just to have a healthy baby but I can imagine for some people it would be disappointing being told one thing and another happens.  For me, the only guarentee to the sex is finding out when the baby comes out. 

 
  IGGY  
 
Married May 26, 2007
 
Rachael arrived July 2nd!!!

Last Wednesday I had my ultrasound and we were able to to find out....its a girl! DH was in school so my sister was with me. When he got home from work he knew what we were having in less than 20 minutes. After some joking, laughing, pleading, he said that I could tell him if he guessed right. He said he knew as soon as he walked in the door that we were having a girl.

Married the Best Man on Land or Sea on Sept 29/07 and expecting a Pink Princess on or around Dec 7/08!!!!

Also known as Pinky!!!

I am torn...

I would WANT to find out the sex of the baby to have things ready, I am a planner for SURE. Name, Clothes, Nursey etc..

BUT

The sex of your child is the ONE true surprise you will have in your life,, the one great moment after birth when you find out and it sure would be nice to experience that.

I really do not know what we will do.

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My parents, for whatever reason, are really adamant that parents should not find out the sex before (though they can't articulate why exactly they think this) and I've said flat out that I will want to know.  They weren't impressed, but all they could say was "well don't tell us then" - so we won't!  I like the idea of it just being dh's and my little secret for a while anyway

igottajlo (7/16/2008)

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Also, for DH and I (sorry this is a novel LOL) ... we had friends find out they were having a boy ... well come delivery day, out pop a baby GIRL!  They were thrilled just to have a healthy baby but I can imagine for some people it would be disappointing being told one thing and another happens.  For me, the only guarentee to the sex is finding out when the baby comes out. 

We had the exact same thing happen to friends of ours, which is why I always said I wouldn`t fully believe it until a 3D ultrasound where I could really see it for myself.

We were in the same position as the OP though - we kept going back and forth on whether we wanted to find out or not. (I actually had a thread about it before they all went away.) If either one of us had felt strongly one way or the other, it would have made the decision much easier - but we were both indecisive. It would be nice to be able to buy a few pink or blue things ahead of time, but one of my thoughts was that if we found out we were having a girl (which I`ve dreamed about) my shower would be nothing but pink stuff. (I`d like a few girly outfits and stuff, but I`m really not fond of pink in general.)

I`d always thought that I`d definitely want to know. By the time we talked about it though, we both weren`t sure but were leaning toward finding out. I`d been telling everyone that asked that we were `probably`going to find out - then DH goes and tells someone that I want to find out but he doesn`t, so we probably will. ( men...) So we talked about it again, and were leaning toward not finding out. By the time we had the ultrasound, we still hadn`t made a final decision, but we`d been told that the tech wouldn`t tell us at that place anyway, but our doctor would. We finally decided on the day of the doctor`s appointment to find out - and it wasn`t in the report, so we still don`t know.

I was disappointed enough though that I want to find out at our 3D one on July 26 - we`re going to try to keep it a secret, though.

Married my love on October 20, 2007;
our sweet little Owen Thomas arrived October 23, 2008!