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When they were very little, I worried about SIDS and I'd find them dead in their cribs. That thought terrifies me.
I worry that I'm not using the car seat properly even though I read and re-read, checked and double checked and then had my husband do the same thing. I was told that they don't do car seat checks in this city anymore.
I worry that I'll make some huge parenting mistake out of ignorance and my child will end up, worse-case, in a hospital (mental or trauma) or become a criminal or at the very least, spending big bucks having a counsellor sort them out.
I worry about whether they eat enough. Whenever Annaliese is crying, I always offer her breastmilk first even though most of the time she is trying to tell me to get that nipple out of her face. I worry that Joelle is having too much breastmilk and not enough veggies or other foods. She is 25th percentile for weight, but so is her dad and I've even fattened him up by 30 lbs since we have been married. I found it very reassuring when I learned about how much toddlers eat even after being weaned.
I worry that I'll die before they grow up. One of the downsides of having kids in your late 30s.
I worry that they'll hate me when they're older. Or they'll hate each other.
Anyone else want to vent their fears so that they aren't so scary anymore?
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| My biggest fear has to be something happening to me and him growing up without a Mother. I dont know why, but I am not worried about something happening to him because I am responsible for him and know that I would do anything to protect him. The thought of him growing up without a mother brings a tear to my eye though. I also worry that he will grow up and look back and not have had a happy childhood. Even though I have absolutely no reason for thinking this. I guess, just like every other Mom, I just want to do the best job possible. On the lighter side, My Mom continually tells me that our kids are supposed to be twice as bad as we were as teenagers. If this is the case DH and I are SOL. Between the two of us we did EVERYTHING bad a teenager could possibly do!
Was ldeitz.....now lstashko...but you can call me Lisa Married May 12, 2007!! Welcomed baby Anthony to the world April 22nd, 2008!!
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I worry a lot....
I worry about everything that could still go wrong in utero...
I worry that my baby will have some sort of disability and that I won't know how to care for her/deal with it.
I worry that I'll die and that my husband will be left behind with our perfect little baby....and that she will grow up without a Mommy.
I worry about SIDS.
I worry that I'll be a bad parent and that she'll grow up resenting me and I won't get that mother/daughter relationship that my mom and I have.
I worry that I'll never finish school and that I won't be able to provide for my family (even though I know I will...)
I worry that because my Mom will be out of the country for the first 9-10 months of my baby's life that I'll have no one to call and ask questions of and cry too. I'm also worried that she will come home, and her grandbaby (who she loves more then ANYTHING) won't want to go to her or will cry and only want me.
I worry that I won't be able to breastfeed...
I worry about everything pretty much...*le sigh*
...Proud Momma of Charlotte...
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| I remember standing in the shower very pregnant and looking down at my HUGE belly and just starting to weep...I wept for my child because I was scared I wouldn't be a good mommy.. and who am I to raise a child anyways? A good child at that? I fear(ed) that I won't LIKE my child at times...terrible twos, teens etc...but I know I will always LOVE them. I fear(ed) about SIDS, loosing my child, loosing my husband...I never did worry about me passing. I fear(ed) that there is some underlying disease that we will find out when she is a bit older and it will be heart-wrenching, something that we will loose her from or will make her have a tough go at life...that would make me feel guilty in some aspects.
BABY #2 ALREADY?? HOLY CRAP!!!!  A Child - not until you hold one on your lap do you realize your entire world can fit into your arms
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| Yup! I worry pretty much about everything you girls described in your posts. And I guess it's just the beginning! When I was pregnant, I was first worried something would go wrong and I would lose the baby. Then I was worried something would happen during the delivery and thought it would be better once she was out... WRONG! I worry even more! Sometimes I think I'll worry less when she's bigger but now she's pretty much always with me, I always have an eye on her. When she's older and goes to daycare, school, friends, etc., I won't be watching her all the time. I'll have to let her be and help her become independant for her own sake! Or else she will hate me and need a good counsellor...! So I guess there's no way out... now that we're moms (or pregnant), we are destined to worry! The most worried I have been so far was the first night in the hospital after my lo was born. She was sleeping in her little hospital bed and even though I was exhausted, instead of sleeping, I was checking every 5 minutes if she was ok. I was checking her breathing and making sure the blanket wasn't blocking her airways. I thought "Hey, I didn't have this c-section for nothing!". The second night I slept, not because I worried less, but because I was just too tired!!! Are we in love with our babies or what!
 Proud mom of baby girl Raphaëlle since May 22!
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right now, I'd say my biggest concern/worry is that I'll never get pregnant so I can get to the next stage of worry and concern.
MrsMtobe
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The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
Making the decision to have a child-it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.
The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom.
To understand a mother's love, bear your own children.
Mother is the name for God on the lips& in the hearts of little children.
A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.
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| I don't have enough time to type out all that I worry about!! The shorter list would be what I DON'T worry about, except, I fear that list would actually be non-existent! I worry about EVERYTHING under the sun. I worry about what kind of man he will grow up to be - whether he will be a kind, caring man, who is respectful towards women. When he acts up I worry that means I have raised a brat, even though he is only two and basically a really good kid. I worry that something will terrible will happen to him. I worry that no matter how much we try to prevent it, he will fall into the wrong crowd and end up on drugs or something like that. I worry that we don't have a parking spot in the driveway for him for that time in the distant future when he owns his own car (yes, I SERIOUSLY think about this stuff, and he is TWO!)...I could go on and on and on...
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