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| My DH is in the Navy and will ahve a really great pension too. He wanted to get a prenump written up to protect that. I personally HATE the idea of a prenump...to me it says, "when we divorce...". We were talking about it sort of heatly one day and he had the nerve to say that he didn't know if he would get married without one. I couldn't believe it!! I started to cry and asked him if he really meant that! We were a couple of months from the wedding by this point. He shrugged and said he wasn't sure. He later apologized about saying it and said he didn't mean it. He saw what his parents went through with their divorce and was worried about it. One night while going to sleep, he out of the blue said that we didn't need to sign one. I asked if he was sure and he said yes. So long story short, no we don't have one. I wouldn't sign one either. That being said, if I had been marrying a millionaire, I could understand it and would probably sign one as long as I was protected too. This was the other thing...when we were talking about it. I said, that if we were to get a prenump, we would need seperate lawyers and HE would have to pay for both of them.
Married the Best Man on Land or Sea on Sept 29/07 and expecting a Pink Princess on or around Dec 7/08!!!! Also known as Pinky!!!
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beccak (7/22/2008)
I personally HATE the idea of a prenump...to me it says, "when we divorce...". I agree..... Hubby & I don't have one either, and I am the one with the "great" pension plan 
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| We kind of have one. When I bought our house, we had a lawyer draw up a Cohabitation Agreement in which DH (then boyfriend) relinquished his property rights. The Agreement contained a clause to basiically roll it into a prenup if we got legally married. I'm really happy we have it. Neither of us were too concerned. We were both pretty surrounded by divorce(s) growing up. It felt practical.
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I think it is an incredibly responsible thing to do. No one goes into a marriage thinking they will get divorced, but it does happen. It is especially important when it comes to pensions.
During my parents marriage my mother worked full time as a teacher, while my father worked full time as a farmer. He did not pay into CPP or have a pension set up. He left her and now he is drawing half of her teaching pension plus half of her CPP.
I think it is only responsible to consider all of life's possibilities. Just because you bought fire insurance doesn't mean your house is doomed to burn down, but you will be protected if it does.
When the friends are gone
When the party's over
We will still belong
To each other. ~Shakira
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| I agree with the PP's. If your going to consider a pre-nup, it should be a conversation between you and your FH, his mother should not be included. If it is decided that you will get one, I certainly wouldn't have your FMIL involved, that's a complete conflict of interest. As a lawyer, she should be aware of that. She should have absolutely no part of it what-so-ever. As for my personal view on pre-nups, it also says "when we divorce". I wouldn't marry a man who insisted upon it.
Married September 10, 2005 Expecting our lil' Monkey - February 5, 2009 Before you were conceived, you were wanted. Before you are born, you are loved.
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| I'm getting a prenup. It's already sitting on my desk. This was decided long before we got engaged. We are both in our 40's and want to protect what we have now and will have in the future. It is a requirement that each party have their own lawyer. It doesn't matter if MIL writes the prenup - it should reduce the cost, but you will need you own lawyer. The only problem with MIL involved is the negotiation as to what is put in and removed. In this case it may be better for the sake of the family peace for your fiance to have someone else represent him. Sure I don't want to think about divorce, but it also helps to protect the distribution of assets upon death. While you are doing this get your wills and powers of attorney done, this will also ensure you control who makes the decisions in the event something should happen.
Heather Two lives, one path on Sept 26/08
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| Does anyone know how much it costs to get a prenup in Ontario? Also does anyone have a recommendation for a good family lawyer (Brampton/Mississauga area)? Lastly, we are currently living in Quebec but are getting married in Ontario and will be moving back there in a year, so I'm thinking it's best to get one through a lawyer in Ontario, but does anyone know if it makes a difference? Thanks girls.
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