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We are having an out of town wedding and paying for dinner at a restaurant but not having a dance. Does is look bad if we don't buy the alcoholic drinks? There will be about 60 guests. Will people be mad for driving 3 hours to the wedding and not have us pay for their booze? We are having a BBQ the night before at our hotel and supplying homemade wine. I'm really torn on this becuae i know i wouldn't be offended if i had to by my drinks at a wedding, thats my choice to drink, right?
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Have you considered maybe having drink tickets... so one or two drinks are on you?? Or maybe having wine on the tables supplied by you but any other drinks are paid for by the guests?
Crystal 
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It really depends on where you are...I'm out in BC, and I find out here, it's mostly either toonie bars or cash bars...I've only ever been to ONE wedding that was an open bar.
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We are having a cash bar but then again, we are having our wedding on National Defence property. We don't want to encourage anyone getting really drunk. At the same time, we are going to continue with military tradition and we will "ring the bell". There is a bell at the bar, that when rung means that you buy rounds for everyone. We are going to do that at least once.
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| From my experience on this board there is a great divide among people. Most people are really against cash bars or are really for cash bars there aren't toooo many people who don't have a strong opinion. When I saw this topic I thought OMG. Honestly my opinion is that its your wedding and do what you think is right. I find that it is a nice balance to have wine during dinner and then the rest is up to the guests to buy their own booze. I am not opposed to drinking, I like the occasional drink but I really do have issues with people drunk. My anxiety and comfort level goes through the roof. So I prefer not to support people drinking in excess so we supplied some wine and then the rest is up to the people to supply their own. My theory is I have a budget and I would prefer to spend extra money on food and less on booze.
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| In my honest opinion, NO, you do not HAVE to pay for booze. You're absolutely right: it's people's choice whether they want to drink or not. BUT, I also realize there are many people who think a cash bar is rude and feel incredibly strongly about it. There does tend to be a lot of regional variation. Here in Ottawa, for example, cash bars are pretty common. I've only been to one wedding that wasn't a cash bar. My only word of caution is this: if you do go with a cash bar, make sure people know about it. Spread the word via your family and wedding party. Especially since people are driving pretty far to get there. You don't want anyone to find themselves stuck there without any cash, you know? Hope this helps 
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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