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| We were really hoping to have an open bar but just decided to make ours a cash bar instead. FH is presently off work and we just do not have the extra cash so are keeping extras to a minimum... we will provide wine on tables and a couple of drink tickets and then charge for remainder of drinks. I am also hoping that people will think about their intake a little more... have seen some really reckless drinking at open bar weddings just because it is free. We included this on our invites to forewarn guests.
Marrying my love, on Sept 20/08... with our children at our side.
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kaisag (7/28/2008)
sarahandrob2010 (7/26/2008)
In my honest opinion, NO, you do not HAVE to pay for booze. You're absolutely right: it's people's choice whether they want to drink or not. BUT, I also realize there are many people who think a cash bar is rude and feel incredibly strongly about it. There does tend to be a lot of regional variation. Here in Ottawa, for example, cash bars are pretty common. I've only been to one wedding that wasn't a cash bar. My only word of caution is this: if you do go with a cash bar, make sure people know about it. Spread the word via your family and wedding party. Especially since people are driving pretty far to get there. You don't want anyone to find themselves stuck there without any cash, you know? Hope this helps  100% agree with this. The last thing you want is to inconvenience your guests. Some venues still dont even have bank machines! 
I actually think its ok to include this on your invites, below 'Reception to Follow', that way everyone will know to bring money. +1. Depends on the norms for your area (I'm with Kaisag - accustomed to open bars in our area) and your wants. I think it's very important to let ppl know - especially with the 3 hour drive.
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KatherineR (7/29/2008)
kaisag (7/28/2008)
sarahandrob2010 (7/26/2008)
In my honest opinion, NO, you do not HAVE to pay for booze. You're absolutely right: it's people's choice whether they want to drink or not. BUT, I also realize there are many people who think a cash bar is rude and feel incredibly strongly about it. There does tend to be a lot of regional variation. Here in Ottawa, for example, cash bars are pretty common. I've only been to one wedding that wasn't a cash bar. My only word of caution is this: if you do go with a cash bar, make sure people know about it. Spread the word via your family and wedding party. Especially since people are driving pretty far to get there. You don't want anyone to find themselves stuck there without any cash, you know? Hope this helps 100% agree with this. The last thing you want is to inconvenience your guests. Some venues still dont even have bank machines!
I actually think its ok to include this on your invites, below 'Reception to Follow', that way everyone will know to bring money. +1. Depends on the norms for your area (I'm with Kaisag - accustomed to open bars in our area) and your wants. I think it's very important to let ppl know - especially with the 3 hour drive. Again, I think it goes back to what is the norm in your area, what your friends and family are used to! I have NEVER been to a wedding with a host bar, so I didn't feel the need to put 'Cash bar' on the invites, because everyone would expect it anyway!! I did put wine on the tables, but everything else, people paid for themselves!! No one had a problem with it, but thats the way weddings are in my area!!
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I am one that is really against cash bars. i think its tacky. However if full open bar is too much we might limit the types of drinks, or see if we can cap it at a certian dollar, or set a limited time, above and beyond which would be cash. though we would still offer and pay for wine, and my must have martini. But then we dont have alot of drinkers (i dont think, nothing like a wedding to find out how much your family REALLY drinks, and we are the first on both sides!)
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| I have friends that have been debating this issue for about a year. He is from northern Ontario where you're just showing off if you have an open bar and she's from a family where its unheard of to have a cash bar. They've decided on an all inclusive resort in Cuba - Problem solved (at least for them). For us it was a no brainer - FH and I have only ever been to 1 cash bar. Even the office christmas parties are open bar. Every one has made some very good suggestions for solutions. The decision is up to you and FH. Keep in mind that you can't please everyone all of the time. Congratulations and good luck!
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For us it was a no brainer - FH and I have only ever been to 1 cash bar. Even the office christmas parties are open bar. Every one has made some very good suggestions for solutions. The decision is up to you and FH. Keep in mind that you can't please everyone all of the time. Congratulations and good luck! LOL Interesting you should mention that. My FH's work Christmas parties are all cash bar, too. I never gave it any thought 
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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