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| This is a hard one. i can't STAND my FMIL. We've been together 8 years as of April 25th and Its been this way since the beggining. Shes bossy, and rude, and ignorant and she is too opinionated and did i mention CONTROLLING!!! and manipulative~! she HATES my mom and is SO rude to her, even wwith my mom trying to be nice (she hates my mom for a personal reason, FH's sister was killed at young age of 10 . . long story and because my dad is friends with. . . the guy who killed hers, girlfriends STEPFATHER) she hates my mom because she thinks they know something and are hiding something about the murder case UGH loooooooooooong story so wont get into it, BUT Its getting so hard, i stress about this woman every day and dont want her in my life at all but FH is SUCH a mamas boy I dont even want her at the wedding, according to her my family is scum! my family has had a long history with drugs / alcohol unfortunatley and have hurt me a lot but have come such a long way!!!!!!!!!! i just. . . wish she would move to the north pole!!!!! sorry guys!@ needed to vent!!!!! Thanks for listening 
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| Wow sounds like a tough situation for you. I hope everything works out for you for the wedding. Likely, since you say your FH is a momma's boy things aren't going to change much and you can't not invite her to the wedding. You could elope ~ I know I've thought about it more than once. But honestly, who'd want to miss the big party. Can you invite off-duty police officers to guard her? Wouldn't be the first wedding I've been to where that's happened.
Nah, seriously... you're doing the right thing - just try to keep being nice. Grin and bear it until after the wedding... Sorry I can't be more helpful but it sounds like this problem has a lot of mini issues within it and isn't a simple answer.
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| It sounds like this situation is not going to get better, I would b!tch her out and put her in her place... it can't get any worse than it is; and I know it will make you feel better! Ok... that was bad advise, unfortunately I HATE hearing about FMILs treating their FDILs ... GRRRRR!
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youre right. It wont get better. . . unless. . .  does anyone kow of any kidnappers i could borrow who are willing to drive to the north pole??????
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Sorry crazy... but I did hear that aresenic tastes like almonds, you could always maker her a cake! lol
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Sorry to hear that you are having issues with your FMIL. Just keep in mind that ... you are marrying her son, not her. While she is still his mother, you should be respectful and polite, but you do not have to be "super close" to her. Set the boundaries with her and keep your distance emotionally, but do be polite.  Let her look like the bad one and not yourself!
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
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| Yikes!! I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with this. MrsM gives great advice. Best of luck.
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