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| My bridesmaid is a bm in another wedding that was to take place the weeekend before my shower. Or so she though. She has told me since day one that the other wedding was June 10. She got the invite for that wedding and its June 17...my wedding shower!!!!!! SHe called, and apparently, she's had it wrong the whole time. She's booked the wrong days off work and everything. I don't know HOW she did it, but she did... Anyway, my MOH is not an "in front of people" thing, and having it another weeeknd is not an option because its back home and there's a bazillion other reasons I have to go home that weekend. So it has to be then. Is it wrong of me to host this thing now? I want this shower not for the guests but so that those that cannot/will not be coming to my wedding (6.5 hours away from my hometown) can still celebrate iwth me. I live in a small town where showers are put in the weekly paper as "ads" and whoever comes, comes. In my area, bridal teas/bridesmaid showers are not heard of, let alone socials or anything. So how can I host this shower and make it known its more of a thank you for being part of my life, and I want to share this day with you thing? My MOH is great for organizing things, even calling and inviting those near and dear or out of town. But she's not willing to lead the evening, nor is my step mom and my mom/dad don't really have any friends that are females who would do this kinda thing....
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it's 2006... do it. why not.
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| It's not typical etiquette... but, I personally don't think it's wrong. Explain to those that will listen... your BM had to be in another wedding that day and you'd already made arrangements. Make sure to make a speech thanking everyone and don't forget to try and relax and enjoy. You could also try hiring a wedding coordinator to host it for you. Then you are still fine with etiquette as someone else is hosting it (even if they are paid). Just a thought...
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I personally wouldn't do it.... i couldn't host my own party that people know they are expected to bring gifts too... that said, i'd talk to my family, or even do as scotbride said and hire a wedding co-ordinator. ~ Alli xoxo
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| I think it's a great idea for you to host your own Bridal Shower. With that being said, you should also have some help with the planning and organizing and such. It sucks to hear that one of your BM's can't make it but don't let that ruin the idea of having a Bridal Shower. Even though you will be in charge of inviting guests and the games and the food, there could still be some nice little surprises! Good luck and PM me if you need any help!
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alligap (4/8/2006)
I personally wouldn't do it.... i couldn't host my own party that people know they are expected to bring gifts too... that said, i'd talk to my family, or even do as scotbride said and hire a wedding co-ordinator. ~ Alli xoxo
I agree. I like the suggestion of a co-ordinator, too. Or even just a close friend to act as the offical host (You can do all the work behind the scenes). Hosting your own shower seems very self-serving.
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in my opinion, special circumstances require special solutions. Hosting your own shower is one such solution. Hiring a wedding co-ordinator would be another. Having anyone willing to play hostess is a third... Do what is right for you. Miss Manners will not show up on your door and slap your hand for whatever your decision may end up being.
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
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