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I also wanted to add, after re-reading your post.
If you don't think you would be able to support a child right now, then don't have one.
You ask, "WHAT IF WE HAVE A KID???" welll.... i'd hope that you know how to "prevent" having children... and if you aren't in a place right now to take a care of a baby financially.... I don't even know why it's a consideration for you.
i don't know how else to say this... and i'm not TRYING to be rude or abbrasive..
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| Something else you may want to consider is whether it is financially feasible for you to set up shop in a city that's small and demands bilingual workers. If it's not pedestrian-friendly and there's next to no odds that you'll be able to find a job there, maybe it's not practical to set up roots there. You could be painting yourselves into a corner for his job, which would be fine if it were paying enough for you to have the house, kids etc that you want one day. Now might be a good time to sit down and talk about what your long-term goals are as a couple (the income you'd like to be earning in 5 years, when you want to buy a house, have kids etc) and really evaluate whether those are possible in a town that has extremely limited employment opportunities for you. Good luck - there are tons of jobs out there if you're willing to relocate!
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robandhil (3/27/2008)
just my 2 cents but maybe your fh needs to find a job where you can also work.. so then that way you dont have to stress gout about moneywrong quote. Steph I agree. OP seems quite a bit naive. A person will never get a job because they have a wife / house / car / credit card. The other applicant is not at fault so no need to bash him, and no need to brun bridges either. Seems like she is living in quite a remote area so their may not be any other choices for employment so no need to ruin future promotions by being a baby and not helping the guy who got the job. I'm a really sorry that FH didn't get the promotion, sounds like some favourtism was played and maybe the age card which is completely unfair but its reality.
And so the fun begins...YIKES! 2009 here we come. Marrying the only man for me March 7th 2009:kiss: If you was a tree & I was a Squirrel, I'd store my nuts in yer hole. 
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Not to come off as harsh either but did you not look into employment before moving to your new town??? I would think that would be an important consideration when planning a move?
Sarah and Shawn 08.01.09
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dansfiance (3/27/2008)
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no offense here.. but you sound really immature in this post.
I totally feel for you that he didn't get it... and what you say about the other worker sounds like your fh deserved it alot more.
However, it is not the employers responsiblity to look at YOUR lifestyle when choosing someone for a position. ALSO... you should NEVER bank on something you don't have. He didn't have the job given to him yet, and yet you go and get a Car, and a dog... etc.
also a credit card is great to have to build your credit rating, but it doesn't mean you have to use it.
It would be nice to have a house... and everything else.. but live within your means..... and I agree with pp's when they say you should really be trying a lot harder to find a job if money is a stresser. Even at minimum wage, at least it's an income, and would make a HUGE difference if you got full time somewhere. You don't have children now, so it seems like the perfect opportunity for you to go out and save up some cashola to buy the house you love.
Good luck.STeph, I agree with you. I also agree with Steph. Hope had some good points as well.
 Kaisa & Sid - June 30, 2007
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| I agree 100% with the PP's. What this other guy does or doesn't do in his life would have no effect on getting the job. And really how do you know he doesn't need the money? Your blaming your mistakes on the other guy and the workplace. You chose to move to an area where you can't work, you chose to have a wedding thats costing you money... I would hope that you wouldn't have children. With a baby comes lots of new expenses and from the sounds of it money is already an issue. I'm sorry but your post was so childish. I used to have a friend that was like this, she was always commenting on what FH and I had and what we made because she wanted it. Yet it was her life choices that were keeping her from it
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Hey guys... just want to ask that we refrain from calling the OP childish or immature. You can definitely state your opinion of the situation without "name calling" so to speak.
Thanks ladies 
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