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| I mailed out my invitations about 2 weeks ago and have been checking for RSVP's ever since. As most of you know its a very exciting thing. So my first reply arrived today which I discovered when I got home from work this evening. I also discovered that it was open. (I still live with my parents) When I asked my parents about it they didn't think it was a big deal. I told them that it was a very exciting thing for me and that I wanted to open them myself. There reply was that they were paying for half the wedding so whats the big deal?? I am angry over this. Am I over reacting??
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| I would be annoyed, especially if the RSVPs are mailed to you (i.e., have your name on the envelope). It does take some of the fun out of it, IMO. It sucks that they're pulling out the money card. I guess since their paying for half the wedding, they get to open half the RSVPs?  parents.... Maybe reiterate that you really want to open them yourself, that it's really important to you and that you want that excitement and joy as you open the cards. If they really want to know that badly, tell them you'll open them together. Good luck!
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| no I don't think you're over reacting. It's your wedding they maybe be paying for part of it but that doesn't give them the right to open your mail...I'm assuming it was addressed to you and or your FH, or spoil any part of the fun and excitement. I hope for your sake that was the first and last one they open on you!
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dbelter (3/27/2008)
I would be annoyed, especially if the RSVPs are mailed to you (i.e., have your name on the envelope). It does take some of the fun out of it, IMO.
It sucks that they're pulling out the money card. I guess since their paying for half the wedding, they get to open half the RSVPs? parents....
Maybe reiterate that you really want to open them yourself, that it's really important to you and that you want that excitement and joy as you open the cards. If they really want to know that badly, tell them you'll open them together.
Good luck!
I agree
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| Am sorry...........just talk to your parents another day and let them understand that it would mean so much for you to open them yourself. the other day one of my RSVPs came and my dad didnt know what it was and guess what he did? tore it up and trashed it, until he realized that oops, they are RSVPs. Ours are postcard type......something to make you laugh!! hehhe
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I would be upset too! I dont think anyone has the right to open up mail that is addressed to another person unless they specifically have permission to do so.
Maybe you should just explain to your parents that from now on, you would like to open them!
Goodluck 
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| How disappointing!! I don't think you're wrong to be upset. Emotions aren't good or bad, necessarily, they just ARE. Now, if you'd yelled and screamed and ripped things up and stormed out of the house over it, then I might tell you your actions were wrong But emotions aren't wrong (IMO). I know it's REALLY hard not to focus on the wedding during wedding planning, but maybe it would help to remind yourself that the wedding is just the beginning of marriage, and having someone else open an RSVP won't change the quality of your marriage  I think this might be one of those situations where it's good to remember the "one year rule" (I'm sure there's a real name for it, but I don't know it). Ask yourself: Will this still matter a year from now? Most of the time, the answer is no. If the answer is yes, and you legitimately need to do something about it, then go for it. But most of the things we get upset about don't really need any action and the sooner we can let it go, the sooner we'll be happy again. (This concept is explained really well in "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.") My son was in a sort-of counselling thing for a while, and one of the biggest lessons I learned from that was to ask yourself "Is this making my problem bigger or smaller? If it's making it bigger, what can I do to make it smaller instead?" Sorry if that was really rambly and all over the place. I need to go to bed; I usually make more sense in the morning I apologize in advance if anything I said in there was offensive. I truly mean it only as suggestions for you to take or leave as you prefer
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