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| My dh's cousin is getting married in august, but unfortunately we can't make it to his wedding. We had received the wedding invitation a few days ago now, and I'm just wondering what the proper ettiquette is , in regards to sending a wedding gift. Do we send it now, when we inform him we can't make it to the wedding? or do we wait closer to his wedding date to send it? we are planning on sending a monetary gift.
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I really don't know the etiquette, but here's what I would do. I would send the RSVP to decline, then send a wedding card with the money closer to the wedding date.
 August 23, 2008
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dbelter (3/31/2008)
I really don't know the etiquette, but here's what I would do. I would send the RSVP to decline, then send a wedding card with the money closer to the wedding date.That's what I would do, too, but I also admit I don't know the traditional etiquette about it.
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| hee hee I looked it up in my ettiquette book beltsie and sarah are right, RSVP you're not coming, send card closer to the date
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I agree with everyone above, my reason wasn't etiquette, but logic. I received a few things early and wasn't yet prepared with thank you cards, so i rushed out and purchased ones i was only luke warm about because i wanted them to recieve something to the effect that i received their gift. Getting gifts too early can be a burden, lol. Not that i'm not grateful for every gift.
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dbelter (3/31/2008)
I really don't know the etiquette, but here's what I would do. I would send the RSVP to decline, then send a wedding card with the money closer to the wedding date.I agree. We invited a family member that lives in another province (mostly so she could see my grandparents) and she can't make the trip so she sent her reply card and then sent a card with a cheuqe. Same for one of FH's aunts that can't come to my shower.
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i think that the PP's are right. i have noticed that people who said that they could not attend have been sending gifts and cards recently... so seeing as ihave 9 days to go..i think that is the way to do it. However, i did get a gift a couple of months back and it was a wonderful surprise and made me super excited that our big day was getting closer...
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yoda75 (3/31/2008)
My dh's cousin is getting married in august, but unfortunately we can't make it to his wedding. We had received the wedding invitation a few days ago now, and I'm just wondering what the proper ettiquette is , in regards to sending a wedding gift. Do we send it now, when we inform him we can't make it to the wedding? or do we wait closer to his wedding date to send it? we are planning on sending a monetary gift. Send the RSVP now, stating that you won't be attending. Hold off on the gift until AFTER the wedding has happened. Guests are allowed up to a full year after the wedding day to provide a gift so don't worry about that. Just keep in mind that engagements are fragile and can explode at any time for a huge number of reasons. The gift is in honour of the actual marriage, not the impending marriage. They need to do the deed first in order to qualify for the lootbags. EL
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