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| I was just wondering if anyone else is going through this....My FH's family is not showing any interest at all in our wedding.....I don't mean the entire family, I mean his parents whom I thought atleast his mom would want to help out with ideas of who we should invite from their side or some interest at all. One of his sisters who is a bridesmaid, who has asked me maybe once how things are...Each time I try and get her to come and look at dresses for the bridesmaids she is too busy....I have asked her and her mom to come along to the restaurant who is catering our food to have lunch to check it out and I have asked them to come out to the venue which is in Niagara on the Lake and nothing. When I asked the mom if she wanted to have some input she told me and rudely that she didn't want to have anything to do with the wedding.... So do I just go and chose the bridesmaids dresses without her? I just don't get it, we see them once in a while and FH is always helping them out with their things, he is an accountant .... Last time I saw his parents I made butter chicken the night before, I like to let it sit overnight in the fridge tastes great, anyway I was about to make the rice and she said oh we are here for business only not lunch? Our wedding is coming up fast this September....Should I just chuck it up to well that's the way they are? My father lives in Miami, Florida, my mom is out of province and my brother is in London, England and they are always asking us what they can do and so on....I don't know maybe it is just me and I am being silly............................. Happy Lily
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| Lily, Accountants are the hardest kind to marry!! Ive got one too. I'm not sure what to say, but I do understand. FH's sister got married last summer and they were into every detail of it and travelling from Torono area to Ottawa every weekend for planning. And I don't even get asked about any planning. I wonder if having FH talk to his parents about it would help a bit. maybe if they knew that you would really like their imput, their attitude would change. I hope it all works out.
Soon to be Jac-E  *September 12th, 2008*
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Yes they sure are hard to be with at times....Accountants that is... He see's how they are acting and well that is the way they are. So we have just decided to ignore it. But I just don't get it, my family and extended family are insane all of them and there are lots....They all want to help out, some live in Ottawa, Montreal and Niagara on the Lake..... Thanks for the nice words.....
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| i"ll just say you're not alone. Fh's mom has done nothing positive for our wedding. All shes done at all in fact is royally pissed me off about our guest list and FFIL offered us 500$ to elope 
~Kev & Jen 10.04.08~ "If Love is a Labor, I'll slave 'till the end, I won't cross these streets until you Hold my Hand" One of two cranky Virgos in the Grumps Club!!
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My inlaws had nothing to do with the wedding planning but they live two provinces away. Even still though I would have though MIL would phone me and ask how things were going and never did but I didn't let it bother me. I'm on good terms with my in laws too, maybe they thought they were going to be in the way i dunno. its all good.
~Adrienne~
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I have flying monkeys and I'm not afraid to use them!!!! 
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| My IL's have only shown interest in the wedding if it was something they wanted or benefited them. They wanted the date changed because the date didn't work for the 1 SIL (who they bend over backwards for), but I won't get into the list of things........ Just forget them, plan the wedding your way.
~This is the day I will marry my best friend, The one I laugh with, live for and love~ May 31, 2008
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| Oh I'm right there with you all. FFIL doesn't want anything really to do with the wedding. Just tell him where and when to show up and he'll be there. In fact his first words when we told him we were engaged were "Oh geeze they've gone and done something silly". Nice huh. He has even offered us money if we go and elope. FMIL is a little better but still shows no interest in helping out yet. She does want to know what she can get us as a wedding gift but otherwise hasn't really wanted to participate in much. However that's fine by me. My family is more than happy to help pitch in so I say do what you like and as long as you have support coming somewhere then you should be fine!
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in my experience i wouldn't try to force it on them, in the end you'll get everything done with or without them, they are the ones missing out. I would pick the dress without the SIL.
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