A while back MOH/Best friend's boyfriend calls and tells me that he got a job(job only lasts for about 3) months  in the city I live in, (there isn't much for jobs in the tiny town they live in and it's about 5 hours away.) And asks if he can stay with us for about a month while he is working, he has a few other places to live but they are leaving to move out so he can't stay there the entire time.  So I talk to my fiance and he says he thinks it will be alright, so I tell him sure! You can stay here. He's been here less than a week and I'm already irritated beyond reason, I don't know WHY I thought I could handle having another person in my home, expecially one that I really don't know all that well. And now 4 weeks has turned into 6 weeks and 6 weeks turned into 8 weeks because he moved in here earlier than he had thought he would.

The first night he was here he shaved and left my sink covered with hair when he was done, when I asked him to clean it up instead of apologizing he said, "there's hair in the sink?" and gave me a look and said it like I was being a total btch for saying anything.  The agreement was that he pay us an amount of money to cover the utilities he would use, and he would eat dinner and have breakfast of our food but make his own lunches, the other night I come downstairs and he has the oven on at 350 cooking 3 chicken fingers for his lunch and cutting up a bunch of vegetables on my finace's cutting bord that he only ever use for cured meats, he didn't ask, or say a word about what he was doing to either of us! He is ridiculously comfortable here after less than a week, he's did laundry twice in the first 3 days, and has very comfortably used our computer for hours at a time each night, even pestering me to use it while I was online until I let him on! He sits in the livingroom, talking loudly for hours to his g/f, my friend, about their financial issues, and all I've heard about is how she is upset with him about bills he has run up, and it causes a lot of tension in the house to have someone yapping and arguing about their problems after we've been at work all day. I am having so much regret about saying he could stay here, when I saw him in the kitrchen I lost it and told him how I felt about the situation, that he was supposed to be providing his own lunches and, yes the chicken was his, but cooking 3 little peices in a whole oven is a stupid thing to do, is costly, and just bad as far as being energy efficient goes. He says to me "oh I thought you meant I had to just make my own lunches", like what did he think? That I was going to pack his lunch for him? ugh! He leaves rooms a mess and when asked to help with dishes once he got distrated on the phone and quit midway through and I finished them and the other time he asked for us to "save" him some so he could do them later, which is not the way we do things around here, we don't leave our dirty dishes to sit, we clean up right afterwards! So he did get up to help but then kept leaving to go back to my computer to be on the internet at the same time to talk to some friend he is having issues with, and telling me all about it.

We have told him he can stay long enough for him to find another place.

Him and my friend do not keep a clean house, and I do, I take great pride in my home and my friends see me as neurotic, and too picky, and she often cuts me down for the time I spend cleaning, not that I spend THAT much time, I just keep a clean house! She insists it's like a waste of life, and time could be spent on better things, but I don't see a lot of these people who say that doing all these "better things". Now she is in town and hasn't even called me, and our other firend tells me she is irritated with me, and she will be mad if I say anything about it being his habits that is making it difficult for us to live together, that it is just that I am "way too picky". And I am tired of apologising for the way I live to not offend my friends who can't keep a clean house! Yes I am picky, but he should have more respect for OUR home! And it's more than just cleanliness, It's also a lack of privacy.

I have learned my lesson!

Engaged Dec.24th 07

Getting Married on October 9th 2009

Engaged Dec.24th 07

Getting Married on October 9th 2009

Marrying The Love Of My Life - September 12, 2008!!!

aotter (5/5/2008)

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omg i feel so bad for you. I also like to *try to* keep a clean house but DH is a pig sometimes.....all the time. Hopefully he will find another place to stay. I don't know how ppl can act that way though? whenever i'm staying at someone else's place i always always clean up after myself and help out at much as possible so i'm not an inconvenience to the host. its just the respectful thing to do and i don't understand how ppl can act the way your guest is. I could never let anyone stay in our place....well we can't really b/c we live in a condo so no space. When we first moved in my husbands parents and brother came to visit and stayed with us, I was going apesh*t after a couple of hours b/c i felt i was living in a small cave. I like my space and i llike my privacy. It's hard in your position though b/c of the circumstances ie he lives far away and there's work for him where you are. The last thing you want to do is put a strain on the friendship but I guess your guest is doing that anyways. and don't worry about ppl saying your picky and stuff, I grew up in a very clean environment and I can't relax in a messy one and it makes sense. how can you relax and enjoy your home if its a pig's pen? Regardless though whenever you have a guest the rules are as follows.......ITS MY HOUSE THEREFORE MY RULES! IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT FOCK OFF!!....k that might have been a little harsh. but you are doing him a HUGE favor, he can at least respect you, your husband and your home and I don't think that is too much to ask. Good luck sweetie!!

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Marrying The Love Of My Life - September 12, 2008!!!

lovemrk (5/5/2008)

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aotter (5/5/2008)

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omg i feel so bad for you. I also like to *try to* keep a clean house but DH is a pig sometimes.....all the time. Hopefully he will find another place to stay. I don't know how ppl can act that way though? whenever i'm staying at someone else's place i always always clean up after myself and help out at much as possible so i'm not an inconvenience to the host. its just the respectful thing to do and i don't understand how ppl can act the way your guest is. I could never let anyone stay in our place....well we can't really b/c we live in a condo so no space. When we first moved in my husbands parents and brother came to visit and stayed with us, I was going apesh*t after a couple of hours b/c i felt i was living in a small cave. I like my space and i llike my privacy. It's hard in your position though b/c of the circumstances ie he lives far away and there's work for him where you are. The last thing you want to do is put a strain on the friendship but I guess your guest is doing that anyways. and don't worry about ppl saying your picky and stuff, I grew up in a very clean environment and I can't relax in a messy one and it makes sense. how can you relax and enjoy your home if its a pig's pen? Regardless though whenever you have a guest the rules are as follows.......ITS MY HOUSE THEREFORE MY RULES! IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT FOCK OFF!!....k that might have been a little harsh. but you are doing him a HUGE favor, he can at least respect you, your husband and your home and I don't think that is too much to ask. Good luck sweetie!!

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lol the last part Hopefully he will find another place to stay - i was referring to the ops house guest.....lol i never realised how it sounded until now.

~Adrienne~

Finally got hitched September 2, 2007

I have flying monkeys and I'm not afraid to use them!!!!