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So, we got married on Saturday and I am so thankful that no-one told me that the two families weren't getting along then, because I had a great time.
How do you keep everyone happy? They have completely different personalities and sometimes their senses of humor are highly incompatible, meaning that people don't find things funny, rather they find them insulting. They are both excellent grandparents to our kids and I can't put up with arguing as I feel our kids will see the stress as they get older. There are huge amounts of jealousy. The way one family chooses to spend their money is different than the other family. We went over what both sets of parents gave us for the wedding, and had already arranged to pay everyone back. One family thinks it should be forgiven, the other hasn't said anything of the sort. I feel we should pay it back as they were generous enough to help out with the wedding at all.
DH and I have been talking and have though of a few things to keep people happy, what do you think?
1.Do not discuss one families activities with the other
2.Do not discuss finances with anyone(certain people really like to get involved in ours, and ask us questions and give unsolicited advice)
3.Have family get-togethers every 2 months where NO-ONE assists us, they just show up and enjoy, that way no one feels as though the other is taking over
What do you think? Or should I just live life and wait for it to bite me in a few months.
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| Sounds good to me!!!! No matter what you or your husband will piss off someone on either side of the family. The most important thing is your own family and try to make each other happy and respect each other. I almost had a nervous breakdown this morning because of my own mother's critizing my FH behind our backs and he found out. I will always be in the middle of course. But what is wrong is wrong and I will always try and respect each others opinion even if I dont agree. Good luck!!! and wish me a little too!!
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| Sounds like a good plan. Our families are very dissimilar as well, maybe I should take notes! Congrats on your marriage!
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August 2, 2008 83 days! 
Invitations are out, 90 people invited!  Waiting for RSVPs to come in... 
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I couldn't agree with you more. I was raised with: "what you don't know, doesn't hurt" and "the less you know, the better it is" (in other words, don't get involved in anyone's business and don't let anyone get involved in yours). Good luck!!!
Marrying The Love Of My Life - September 12, 2008!!!
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| Right there with you on the money thing!! My Future ILs know nothing about our money, my family knows a little more. Our families are night and day. Won't ever really mix, so we don't force it. You really have to do whatever works for you
~This is the day I will marry my best friend, The one I laugh with, live for and love~ May 31, 2008
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| Thanks so much! I think everyone was winding down from the stress of the wedding and thats where all this panic came from. I just have to get DH to stick to his guns on the money thing, because they ask a lot of questions, and he gets caught off-guard. You'd think we went in the hole a lot more for our wedding. We owe $2000, thats it, as far as weddings go, I think a wedding and reception for 100 people for $10,000 was pretty good, but maybe I am wrong. We had fun, so it was worth it.
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