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OK... so I know someone who is going to be having a 'money shower'. She has said that the invitation is going to say 'monetary gifts ony please". THEN, she told me that if ppl bring gifts, she is going to have her bm's open them as the people come in and display them on a table. Is it just me or is this not TOTALLY rude??!! Is watching the bride open gifts not the whole purpose of going/having a shower???? If i get invited to the shower, I am thinking of just not going becasue A... i don't know this girl too well...and B... I just disagree with the whole concept. I dunno... i am just not big on the 'money grabbing' things that people associate with weddings..... what do you girls all think??? ~ Alli xoxo
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| I don't like the whole money shower thing... I think people should be free to give what they want as gifts... I will say one thing though... I do not enjoy sitting for hours watching people open their gifts to be perfectly honest. It's boring... dishtowels, blenders, pots, pans, plates, wine glasses.... ugh... I wish you could just go to shower, celebrate with the bride, gift a nice gift and skip the lame games and opening of gifts.
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yes... i will agree that things can get boring... but i have found that it gets like that when the shower is really big..(ie. many mnay guests at the shower). When it is smaller, i think it is more intimate and people can have more comfortable conversations. thanks for your reply though... I am glad i am not the only one that doesn't like 'money showers' ~ Alli xoxo
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It is not rude. It is the way italian showers are done. People who go to them all of the time expect it and would find anything else odd. Rather than rude call it different.
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I am not into the 'money shower'...I think it is rude (call is different if you wish). I have never been invited to an Italian Money Shower, and I have been to a few Italian bridal showers (maybe they think I am rude because I took a gift...but I wasn't the only one, phew (tee hee). I would be insulted if the gifts were opened by a BM but I do agree; do we really need to see every gift opened and play those silly games. Honestly, can the girls all not entertain themselves? My friends and family are fun they don't need encouragement to have fun. At least we have seen that silly 'cross your legs and lose your clothes peg' game go the wayside. Ohhhh that would be a fun thread...silly shower games that need to crash and burn!
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alligap (4/8/2006)
I dunno... i am just not big on the 'money grabbing' things that people associate with weddings..... what do you girls all think??? ~ Alli xoxo
I couldn't agree more and I agree competely with your feelings on a money shower. The point of a shower is to "shower the bride with gifts" and I understand that. But my problem comes with the idea that someone feels they have the right to then tell me what they feel I should be getting them, not to mention the fact that I am not a bank machine. If you want cash, go to an ATM. "Monetary gifts ony please" to me reads as nothing more than: "Come to my party and bring hard cash!" It's sad how wide some people's eyes get at the thought of everything they think have coming to them. Talk about a sense of entitlement!
Then there is the delightful idea that anyone who does get the bride a gift will have that gift opened by a BM. Talk about ungrateful! Someone has gone though all the trouble of taking the time to go shopping, selecting something with care that they hope will make the bride happy, and then taking more time to wrap up their gift. And the bride can't even be bothered to open her own gifts?! Is she worried she might get a paper cut??
For a larger shower I can see having some sort of entertainment going on while the bride quietly opens her gifts (and than takes time to then thank everyone). People can than watch her opening if they want, but then they don't have to. If the point of a shower is to "shower the bride with gifts" then the least she can to is be gracious and thankful and open her own damn presents!
If I was you I wouldn't be going near this shower with a 10 foot pole. She's probably only inviting you to get more "loot."
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thank you Ember... that is exactly how i feel!!! I think TELLING your guests to bring money is completely rude. ~ Alli xoxo
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| see........again, i come from a land where the bride does not invite people to her own shower. as a guest i hate shopping for that perfect gift. money would be easier. rude, maybe, easy, definitely. ember did say it best tho.......if you dont like it dont go. simple really
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