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| There are different traditions involved into this dicussions, each country has a different tradition for a wedding, in my country traditions are chanaged village to village...so same with your families traditions..or your circle of friends they might think this is just unacceptable to bring money but in some countries it is normal...and people don't even ask themselves..hmm what should I buy for their wedding...they consider money to be a gift. I know most of people don't like monetary gifts...but in european countries this is a norm...there is no other way... I just think that this couple is overdoing it...and just asking for money even after event!!!!and I think it's absurde!!!!!
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| ^^ thank you...... that is what I am trying to say. Honestly...... it wouldn't be so bad if she DIDNT have such an enormous engagement party that was a replica of a wedding in the first place, and if she didn't specifically request a money shower. The stag was just the topper... and specifically pricing admission at $60, and pricing tickets at $45 was just horrible IMO.
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Well what is done is done..right? If knew it would be like this in the first place you would have given them less at their engagement party...so if there is no other option but to show up at the wedding...$100 would be more then enough to cover it...you can't go back and I know you already gave lots of money..but swollow it and do it. IMHO
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fascha (4/11/2006)
Not everything is as it seems Val, my family would look at me like I was high if I told them we're having the reception at the Lion's Club and that there would be 1 course(which by the way I think is also totally fine). We come from different cultures, and it's very presumptuous of you to say that it looks like Italian weddings are all about the money, that's just what we do.I totaly agree I was not born to an Italian family but my moms boyfriend adopted me so now I am legally Italian....lol Anyhoo, he is very set on us doing it "big", they just want to have the beginning of our new life to start out good. Put it towards a house, car, education! It's one time in your life that you can help and its to help a new couple get their life started.....how bad can that be If you didn't want to give so much, you didn't have to. I know I wasn't expected to shell out tons of cash. Give what's in your budget and your family (who knows how your lifestyle is) will understand
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this is turning into an interesting thread!!
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. Making the decision to have a child-it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom. To understand a mother's love, bear your own children. Mother is the name for God on the lips & in the hearts of little children. A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.
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| I can relate to that horrible 'money grab' situation! Unfortunately its my own brother and his 'wife to be' who are the culprits. I posted on the old boards about how I was upset with my brother and his way of going about his wedding plans and celebrations. All I can say is that yes it is stressful to plan a wedding but when the couple start 'overdoing' it, with the extravagant parties the guests will eventually start talking about how its a money grab situation. There's a polite way to state what you need as far as gifts and then the rude way to say you will only except certain things! JMHO Someone told me that a lot of our guests will appreciate our wedding which is more organized compared to my bro's money grab one! LOL People are different with what they call a celebration and a money grab event. Sounds to me this is one of those selfish money grab 'party's'.  ~Nicole
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