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if we have trouble conceiving, then yes we would consider adoption. although we may have a tougher time since we're a same-sex couple. hopefully we'll be able to conceive - my FI is actually adopted and is hoping that we'll be able to have something that can be genetically 'hers'. she went through some rough periods as a result of being adopted so it's not her first choice.
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| That's a good question... If I have problems conceiving, I would definitely adopt. I've actually never discussed this with FH. This is a topic for discussion.
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I would adopt if we were in agreement on having children at all. At this stage in the game - we're not ready for children and don't see it in the near future. We were both raised in financially troubled families and we'd rather be VERY financially stable when we're ready to raise a family. Heh... who knows when that'll be...
I would actually chose to adopt prior to having my own children. I want to give a child in need a safe and loving environment in which to be raised and if I can do that instead of becoming a genetic mommy, I'd do it.
As for FH's opinion - he's against adoption most days. Others, he'd like to adopt privately overseas and select a latino baby to attempt to stick to his cultural background. I would have no preference, so long as I could help.
FH would prefer the surrogacy route before adoption. He has this whole thing about genetics ... which makes no sense to me considering his upbringing included 3 adoptive brothers. You'd think he would be more compassionate about adoption! Meh.
I'm all for it and I would do it in a heartbeat.
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I would most deffinately adopt. FH and I already have a child together and I asked him if we could adopt anyways and he won't, something about since we can have children of our own there is no reason too.
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| No, we wouldn't adopt. We (well, me) are still on the fence about if, how many and when but in all likelihood, we'll try in about 3-4 years and hopefully have one child. We both seem to be of the mindset that it will happen if it's meant to be. If we have trouble conceiving, I will not go the IVF route. I've seen the constant stress and disappointment that it has caused to my brother and his wife and I simply don't think I could handle it. For us, IVF and adoption aren't on the table. If it doesn't happen, then it wasn't meant to be. We have a great relationship and lots of things ahead of us so it isn't the end all/be all to have children... for us.
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If I can't conceive, then yes, I would adopt. I can't imagine my life with Dan without a child.. I can't.
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| I'm pro adoption but FH is kinda wishy-washy. He just assumes we'll have kids on our own so why even bother talking about it. *sigh* It's on that list of things to discuss (preferably when he's not lounging on my couch sick like tonight).
Great topic Amanda!
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