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FH and I are considering adoption - regardless of what nature does for us.
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As an adopted child myself, I would definately consider it. Although I have yet to find my birthparents, I do know the circumstances around why I was given up. (BC's adoption laws are very open and it was in a letter my parents were given by the adoption agency that outlined my family history a bit). My parents were very open and honest about my adoption and I honestly don't remember a time when I didn't know that I was adopted, and I don't remember not ever knowing what it meant to be adopted. I'm very open myself about my adoption. I also know why my parents chose not to have their own children, and I have a great respect for both sets of parents and their reasons. I honestly feel that my birthparents did what was best for me considering the circumstances and by doing so, they gave me a wonderful life and an awesome family! My parents are the best and I love them to pieces - I have had a great life. Considering what I have gone through in the past 25 years as an adopted child, I would definately consider it. Many children who are up for adoption are there because their birthparents may not be able to provide the type of life they want for their children, and when a really good set of parents do adopt, they are able to give that child a really great life. My FH would of course rather have our own, but if we were unable to (of if I find out of some nasty hereditary desease on my side that I refuse to pass on) then we would definately consider it. We are also considering maybe after having 2 of our own, we would choose to adopt a third. I would love to give a child whose parents can't provide the type of life I have had, the opportunity to have that type of life.
~~ Married to the great love of my life!! - May 27, 2006 ~~ ~~ Proud mommy to Julyan Lark born April 18, 2008 at 3:33 pm 10 pounds 2 ounces ~~
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| Dh and I can have our own and are expecting our first. However, we've been told I should not become pregnant again. So adoption is definetly something we're thinking about.
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| I would adopt and defiantly am considering it. I think DH would if we couldnt have kids but he wants to see if we can have our own first. Like williewonka posted it is a gamble with medical histories and other things. This would be my fear of adopting, but I would probably still adopt.
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mbenoit77 (4/11/2006)
I've actually never discussed this with FH. This is a topic for discussion.
I think a lot of us assume it's a given. But my husband broke up with a serious girlfriend because her first choice for having children was adoption. He couldn't agree, so the relationship ended.
I think adoption is definitely something couples need to talk about before they get married.
lstreet (4/29/2006)
My parents were very open and honest about my adoption and I honestly don't remember a time when I didn't know that I was adopted, and I don't remember not ever knowing what it meant to be adopted.
This is definitely the way to do it. My cousin was never unaware of her adoption. It was talked about as soon as she was able to understand the concept. "We chose you because we love you". My cousin was lucky enough to know her birth grandparents from a young age, so she felt like she had double the love  I imagine keeping adoption secret could lead to a lot of problems later on...
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snappysara (4/18/2006)
Allot of how a person or child acts/turns out in life is nature. Not nurture.
Could you please explain this? I am shocked, so I would like to know where you were coming from with this comment.
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DH and I were looking into adoption before we even started TTCing. I knew I always wanted a child... I just wasn't sure about the HAVING a child part. DH is black, and I'm French Canadian, so we thought it would be perfect to adopt a baby from Haiti that way Dh and I would both be able to share a part of the baby's heritage. But the adoption idea went down the drain when I started to see all the restrictions (including age, and ability to have children) so I gave up the idea. I probably gave up on it a little too quickly, but we're preggers now. But it's definitely still a possibility.
Nicole & Keith Bought the house Feb 23, 2007 Became a MRS. March 14, 2008  Cadence "aka Demi" Arrived November 27 2008
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